Here's the truth, gals.
Many of my clients have shared his situation with me: They had a great first date with a great guy, but then they later wonder where he went. If something like this has happened to you, you're not alone. It's an epidemic.
In an attempt to solve the mystery of disappearing men, here are 3 possible reasons why men disappear before the second date:
1. First dates are easy for men.
Lots of adrenaline and anticipation without a lot of reality to put a damper on it. In other words, novelty and newness are easy to enjoy.
The first time we do anything is exciting. Some men get stuck on novelty and are unable to build anything long-term with a woman.
2. Second dates are difficult for men.
After a first date, men tend to think things through — I mean all the way through. For example, a first date driving an hour to see you is no problem. A second date means it will be a way of life. In other words...reality sets in.
When a man first meets you, reality isn't even in the equation. Men rarely think things through until they realize it's going to take a lot of effort to be with you.
3. Commitment takes reality.
A man has to want and be ready for a relationship, financially and emotionally. Then he has to be smitten (in that order).
Many men get smitten easily. However, the reality is hard on them when they know they're not ready and they sense that you are.
Men don't make seconds dates when they don't think they can be successful at acheiving their goal, whether it's having sex with you right away or building an actual relationship.
This is good news because the man you want will have momentum and a plan, so you'll breeze through a second date on the way to the third.
He will have the essential quality of a man who can have a relationship; he can make and keep agreements. This means he won't disappear because reality is not a problem; it's a gift he welcomes.
James Allen Hanrahan is a highly sought after dating and relationship coach for STRONG women based in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula for lasting love. If you're a smart woman struggling to achieve relationship success, check out the treasure trove of information in A Life of Love.
This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.