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Ladies! Learn The REAL Reason Why Men Marry You

Love, Heartbreak

How to you get a guy to pop the question?

You may be incredibly sexy. Great in bed. We may have sex with you morning and night. We will remember you fondly however this will not be enough to marry you. In fact it has little if nothing to do with it.

The reason we marry you happens outside the bedroom. It happens when we suddenly realize you make us better men.

It starts out that our car is cleaner and our house is cleaner. But it goes deeper than that. A noble quality comes over us and we want to take care of you.

We want to know where you are. We care about the condition of your car.  We make sure you have enough gas. Little things we've never thought about become important. We care about how you feel not just how you look.

As a woman you may be thinking that sounds great how do I make it happen? The truth is there's nothing you can do to make it happen however you can allow it to happen.

It's energetic. The first thing and the most important thing is a man loves a woman who loves him, but not more than herself. Some people call it confidence, but it goes deeper than that. Confidence is for what you can do. Self-love is for who you are. Read Dating Advice For Alpha Women.

The second key which builds on the first is you allow it to happen. This means you feel comfortable and worthy of being cared for not for what you do but for who you are.

Allowing means when he checks on your car you let him. When he wants to get you gas you let him, rather than say that's okay I can get it myself.

For a man to become a better man he needs the space and the opportunity. In short a man marries a woman who he believes he can make life's better and you allow it to happen. Read A Life Of Love.

P.S. Watch How To Know If You Have Chemistry In 30 Seconds.

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