Your love for him as his best friend is pure. However, your love for him as your man is more selfish and based on conditions. Selfishness clouds your vision with jealousy and bias. As his woman, you could potentially get on his nerves. But as his best friend, he would love you until the end of time.
As the emotional beings that we are, men know women can turn on them quickly, from best friend to worst enemy. Perhaps the proverbial forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden was Adam and Eve crossing the sexual line between best friends. The energy can change when a man considers his best friend as a potential mate. In my situation, it was like the woman inside of my best friend all of a sudden awakened.
I began to feel a possessive energy entering into the relationship. Instead of before, when it was just me and her, she was now making demands and acting out of character. I had never noticed these hidden characteristics before. She had always been just my best friend. So, where did my best friend go?
If you choose to cross this proverbial line, you have to be smart enough to weigh all the possibilities, both negative and positive. Be honest and upfront with yourself. Sex should be the last act on your mind. Do not ignore any potential red flags observed during friendship. If you notice small problems now, they will become bigger problems later with the emotional baggage added in. Am I Too Sensitive To Criticism?
It is often best to save your friendship, which can last a lifetime, rather than trading it in for a fleeting sexual moment. Plus, do you know how hard it is for a man to just be friends with a beautiful woman without wanting to sleep with her? It's really hard. In the back of every heterosexual man's mind is the thought of what it would be like to sleep with a woman who is his friend.
You've heard the stories such as, "we came home drunk last night and ended up sleeping together." Believe me, these actions were a result of the desires and curiosities already stored in their subconscious minds. The liquor was the excuse needed to perform the act. Do what you must, but please consider the difference between best friend and girlfriend before you screw up your friendship. Here are 18 subtle relationship tips to check in order to see if you are ready to cross that line:
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