Is your S.O. unhappy? Your fear of commitment could be making it worse.
I like to think that I am an optimist. Most of the time, my first reaction is to assume that things will work out in the end ... even if I'm not sure how. One challenge that I've faced in my 13-year marriage is that I think my husband tends to be more of a pessimist, especially when challenges come up at work. The good news is that there is an easy way for me (and you) to make your significant other happier. A recent study reports that one-third of people would feel more optimistic about life if their partners showed them more commitment. Really? Just show my S.O. that I am committed to him and the relationship and voilà, optimism increases? Done.
Here are ten easy ways to demonstrate to your partner that your commitment will stand the test of time. In addition to making your partner happier, you'll feel happier as well!
Don't threaten to leave. This may seem self-evident, but nothing shows a lack of commitment like talking about bailing. We've all been there — the argument gets heated and it's the same argument you've had a thousand times. Your mind starts to think, "My life would be so much easier if I were gone ..." While it's completely normal to have these thoughts, sharing them out loud (or even subconsciously) does nothing for the level of commitment your partner feels from you. So, the next time you have thoughts about leaving, keep them to yourself.
Make long-term plans together. Take some time with your partner to develop plans for the future. Plan a vacation, talk about buying a house, share dreams about what you're going to do when you retire. Yes it seems far away and that's the point! You want your partner to know you are in it for the long-haul, so let them know that you are thinking about your future together!
Touch your partner. Nothing communicates support like physical intimacy. By touching your partner — a hug while they are cooking dinner, an unexpected kiss — you reinforce your commitment to them. And casual touching can convey commitment even more than sex because it shows a level of familiarity and ease that is hard to find outside of a long-term relationship.
Speak his/her love language. Does your partner appreciate it when you make his/her favorite dinner? Does he/she love it when you bring lunch? Does praise make him/her beam? When you communicate your love in a way that is meaningful to your partner, it shows your commitment. You have taken the time to understand what makes him/her tick and they know that you will be by his/her side through thick and thin. Keep reading ...
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