6 Signs You're Dating A Narcissist

By Dr. Susan Heitler, Creator Of "Power Of Two Marriage". Posted on Nov 2nd 2012.

Is he more into himself than he is into you?

Healthy folks mostly stay in a good mood. They can ride life's bumps in good humor. They also have open ears. When you say something to them, they seem to hear it and take it seriously. They succeed in watching out for themselves and, at the same time, responding with generosity and compassion to you.

Narcissism is a clinical term for what generally boils down to selfishness. Narcissistic people want their way, pay insufficient attention to what others want and can be pretty tough to get along with because if they don't do what you want, they are likely to get angry.

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That's the short explanation of narcissism. Here are the details: six signs to pay attention to. If you are dating someone who exhibits these signs, you may have a narcissist on your hands:

1. Deafness to what others feel, want or think. "What I want, feel, think or believe is all that matters so I don't bother taking seriously what you say, especially when it differs from my thoughts or preferences."

Narcissists think listening is like being a hockey goalie. They knock what others say away instead of letting the ideas of others enter a shared pool of information.

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If you say something that's a good idea, don't expect credit from a deeply entrenched narcissist. He is likely though to say your idea later as if it was his own.

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