Alarming New Facts About The 'Does Size Matter' Debate

Every day I counsel men and women who are concerned about improving their sex lives. The sad truth is that most of us are very poorly educated about sexuality despite the plethora of media attention on it. 

One of the questions men (and women) often ask about is penis size. Most males, at some time in their lives, worry about whether they are "big enough."  Many women wonder whether bigger is better.

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My friend Dr. David Buss and his colleague Dr. Cindy Meston wrote a wonderful book called Why Women Have Sex. In it, they discuss penis size and sexual satisfaction. Their results may surprise you. 

Penis Facts

• The average penis ranges from five to six inches in length when erect.
• The penis averages three to four inches in length when flaccid, or non-erect.
• Contrary to popular belief, penis length is not closely related to height.

In a study of over three hundred flaccid penises, the largest was 5.5 inches long (about the size of a bratwurst sausage) and belonged to a 5'7-inch tall man. The smallest nonerect penis was 2.25 inches long (about the size of a breakfast sausage) and attached to a stocky 5'1-inch tall man.

Does size really matter to women? 

If a woman enjoys having her cervix stimulated during sexual intercourse, then size can matter. For most women, it is going to take a good five or six inches in length to reach the cervix when a woman is sexually aroused.

When people talk about penis size, they are usually referring to penis length. But according to one study, penis width may be more important in determining if a potential mate "measures up."

Psychologist Russel Eisenman and his fellow researchers at the University of Texas in Edinburg asked fifty sexually active university women whether penis length or penis width was more important for their sexual satisfaction. A surprising 45 out of 50 women said that width was more important. Only five said length felt better and none said they were unable to tell the difference. 

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Why is wider better? A wider penis could provide greater clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse as well as more stimulation of the outer, most sensitive portion of the vagina. Continue reading ...

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