Read this before you make an irrational decision to call your ex and say, "Let's try again!"
For one reason or another, your relationship ended and like many people, you want him or her back. You want to get who you had back and you've got a good idea of how to accomplish this monumental task. Of course, the relevant question here should be "Should you try to get your ex back?" There are good reasons and there are bad reasons to get back together with someone. It's all about examining the cause of the breakup and the reasons behind your current urge to get back together with him or her. Dating: Should I Give This Guy A Second Chance?
Here are three seemingly simple questions you should ask yourself to clear up whether or not you should make the effort to get back together:
1. Why do you want to get back together with him or her? While this may not be the most important question, this is the first question you should ask. Loneliness is a terrible reason to start a relationship, and doing it because your nether regions are quivering is just as bad. You need to find out if it is one or the other. Checking if you're lonely is a matter of finding a few friends and spending some time with them.
Go out, have adventures, have fun and meet new people. If all that socializing does nothing but stress the fact that you miss him or her, then you may be onto something. If you only miss your ex when you're alone, don't go for it. It may seem crude but a good way to check if you just miss the physical intimacy is to have an orgasm. If you still want him or her, then you may legitimately want to restart the relationship. Can A Post-Breakup Haircut Help Heal A Broken Heart?
2. Why did you break up in the first place? This is an important question, perhaps the most important question. This answer to this question should color your decision to try to get your ex back. Whatever the answer is, it will fall into one of two categories: either it was an irreconcilable difference or it occurred in the heat of the moment. You need to be honest here. How To Regain Your Sense Of Control After A Breakup
An irreconcilable difference would include breaking up because he or she cheated on you and it was a deal breaker. Another sad but irreconcilable difference would be a couple breaking up because one wanted kids and the other did not. Sometimes the issue is something chronic rather than a one-time deal.
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