Tap Into Your Inner Sex Kitten With Fabulous Lingerie


Sexy Underwear: The Power Of Good Lingerie
Think you can't wear hot skivvies on a Tuesday afternoon? Think again.

Now that Valentine's Day is behind us, I'm going to share a coaching tip I give to many of the ladies I work with: Go out and, in the next two weeks, commit to buying a piece of lingerie that makes you feel sexy.

That's right: You. Whoever said you should buy lingerie to turn men on had it backwards. The foundational garments that we women wear isn't about guys; it's about claiming who we are at our most powerful: women who are turned on by their own existence.


I already hear the protests popping up in your head.

I don’t look like a Victoria's Secret Model.
Why bother when no one sees it but me?
Lacy underwear is too uncomfortable.
I'm married and my husband doesn't care.
I'm single and only wear sexy lingerie on date nights.

This, my darling, is where you have it wrong. You know what's underneath those clothes of yours. More importantly, what you think about yourself extends into how the world sees you.

Don't think nice lingerie is powerful? Imagine how you feel in a pair of cotton granny panties or a worn out bra with the underwire poking through? Not so stellar, right? Now imagine how you feel in something pretty and lacy. Much better!

How do you desire to feel?

There's a disconnect in your brain if you save your pretty things only for special occasions. It's like telling yourself that you only deserve to feel fantastic once in a while.

Choose lingerie that makes you feel good. The goal of it, after all, is to impress yourself. When you impress yourself, you'll automatically impress others. When a woman wears lovely undies on a daily basis, she always feels beautiful and confident.

Beautiful bras that fit correctly are a must. Dozens of surveys show that as many as 80 percent of women are wearing the wrong size bra. If you haven't been fitted in the last year, it's time. Go to a good store and get sized. Choose a bra that fits well and supports those breasts of yours. You may be surprised that the right bra can even make the rest of you look slimmer and better put-together.

Don't shy away from lace. I know it isn't as smoothing as those t-shirt bras, but lace makes you feel feminine and sexy. When you feel feminine, you'll tap into that feminine power of yours. Baby, if you feel sexy, others will pick up on that radiated sexual confidence. (Tips about lace bras: They launder more easily and lasts longer than the molded bras. And, hey, bonus. If your breasts are larger than a D, they will actually find better support in a lined lace bra.)

Panties are powerful. There's nothing like wearing a pair that matches your bra. You've set the foundation of your clothing to be perfection. And if you’re seriously not into lace, know that there are other options. Matching a basic black or nude bra to basic black or nude panties is just as powerful and sexy as little lacy underthings.

(Tip: To keep your lingerie wardrobe in order, shoot for three pairs of panties per bra.)

Our foundational garments are what we wear closest to our skin, so choosing what feels beautiful sends that signal to your brain that you deserve beauty.

We also live in a masculine world, and even if you have to show that side of yourself at work (suits, slacks, jackets, etc.), wearing lovely lingerie underneath it allows you to embrace the power of femininity. By wearing gorgeous lingerie every day, you also develop a better sense of balance. When you carefully choose your undergarments, you are also choosing to live a conscious life. Not only that, when you wear beautiful lingerie, you feel beautiful and desirable.

You have a delicious secret, and you can choose to share it with your partner or keep it all to yourself — it's totally up to you. There's something about a secret that makes you feel more alive. No matter what you're wearing on the outside, when you know you began with beautiful lingerie underneath it all, you feel invigorated.

It's time to fall in love with your life and yourself and that can begin with choosing to dress yourself with love and care. When we treat ourselves daily the way we would when we prep for an important meeting or a big date, then we'll do more of the work we are meant to do.

So, indulge into some sexy new underthings, my dear, because you are totally worth it.

Debra Smouse believes that within every woman is an Inner Sex Kitten just dying to roar. She confesses that it's entirely probable that her own Inner Sex Kitten purchased eight new bras (with matching panties) in recent weeks. To connect with Debra, visit her website and connect with her on Facebook or Twitter, where she shares snippets of creating a life she loves.

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Debra Smouse

Life Coach

You deserve to live a daily life you adore. When you listen to your heart, you can purposefully choose actions to move you towards how you want to feel.

Tarnished Southern Belle (and life coach) Debra Smouse can help you de-tangle the drama in your life, push away the need for perfection, and show you how to create a daily life that you love.

Ready to ditch resolutions and choose a "theme" for your year instead? Get some help with my free e-Book Create a Year You Love: Choosing Your 2015 Touchstones.

Location: Dayton, OH
Credentials: BS
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