6 Dating Behaviors Guaranteed To Scare Men Away

 

So, you are dating a guy, and it's the crucial first few weeks.  You really like this guy, and you are wondering what you can do (or avoid doing) to keep this relationship going and not scare him away.  

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The truth is there are certain things that women can do that will scare men away every single time.  Don't sabotage a potentially great relationship that could have gone somewhere by scaring a man off right at the beginning.  

So here are 6 dating behaviors guaranteed to scare men off that all women should avoid:

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1. Trash Talking Your Ex.  Don't ever trash an ex boyfriend in front of a guy you're dating.  I don't care if you're on your first date or on your fifteenth date with a guy, don't ever trash talk your ex.  Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time.  So don't talk negatively about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if he ever becomes your ex that you are going to trash talk him the same way.  So, when a man asks you about your ex, the only thing you should say is “We are no longer together.  It was a great relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot.”  That's it.  

2. Paranoia Runs Rampant.  Here you are dating a man you really like and the first couple weeks are cruising along really well.  Then that first boys' night out happens.  You start out as the cool woman and send him a text before he goes that says “Have a great time tonight!”  As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming in your mind about what he's doing and you start to think “Is he cheating on me?  Is he flirting with other women?  Where is he right now?”  So then you lob another text in to him asking “What's going on?  What are you doing right now?”  Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his friends, you proceed to make a major blunder – you start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night.  This paranoia will push a man away about as quickly as anything.  So when you are dating a man and he is out with his friends, respect his “guy time” -- it will make you the cool woman he's always wanted to find.

3. Trash Talking Other Women.  A huge mistake women make is trash talking other women in front of the man they're dating.  For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt.  What do you do?  You say  “Look how slutty that woman looks!  I can't believe she is going around in public like that!”  What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is telling him that you are not confident in the way you look.  It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body.  You are planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he he should date someone else who is more confident.  Don't trash talk other women.  It doesn't make you look cool – it makes you look really insecure.