Ladies: when you see a man that you’re attracted to, what do you do?
Do you have a plan for how to deal with men that you’re attracted to? When you’re out and about, do you have a method for getting men to approach you?
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I coach women all the time and I’ve discovered that most women have no idea what to do about men that they’re attracted to. Whether you have a plan or not, allow me to share a few tips.
Here’s what you don’t do:
1. Don’t look down at the ground or pretend that you’re not attracted to him.
That never works.
When I look at a woman and she looks down at the ground, I think to myself, “Hmm, what possibly could be down at that ground? Another dashing man?”
2. Don’t fake like you’re busy with something else.
Don’t look at your Blackberry. Don’t start a pretend conversation on your iPhone.
Here’s something a lot of women will do: a man will come towards them. They’ll look at the man from a distance and then all of a sudden instead of smiling at him to express that they’re attracted, they’ll look at their Blackberry and pretend they just got a text and allow that moment to pass.
Why?! This is not going to get him to approach you. Just. Stop.
3. Don’t turn around and pretend like you weren’t looking at him.
That’s what a lot of women will do. A lot of lonely, single women.
Don’t turn around and pretend like you weren’t looking at him if you really were. That’s inauthentic.
I remember one time I was in Whole Pick-up—Whole Foods as I always call it—and a woman was walking towards me. We locked eyes. I smiled at her. All of a sudden, she turned around and walked the other direction like we were playing hide and go seek.
So what did I do?
I found her down the next aisle and I said, “Hey, I found you. Now it’s my turn to hide.”
She started cracking up.
So I walked away from her and “hid” in the next aisle. She circled around and found me next to the organic kids cereals. I playfully made fun of how she ducked away from me when I smiled at her.
In the end, we laughed and talked for a little while and ended up going out. We actually dated for about a month and she was a lot of fun.
How silly is this childish game of hide and seek with people we’re attracted to? Most men are not going to be as confident as I was to go over to you and call you out on playing games.
Most men are not going to be able to walk over to you and say, “Hey, are there ants on the floor? What exactly are you looking at down there?”
Most men won’t do that.
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So how do you turn these awkward moments into attracting men?
Glad you asked, email me to find out the secret.