I really wonder why that is. Why do women enjoy kissing so much more than men? A woman's lips are kind of like getting on the expressway — there is a direct path between her lips and her genitalia, and I often coach men that spending 20 minutes above her nipples helps her to lubricate and orgasm more easily.
It's not just my opinion though. I hear from a lot of women at our home Bliss Pleasure Parties and in my Curvy Girl Lingerie store that kissing and making out are surefire ways to get her juices flowing. Unfortunately, they're also some of the first things that seem to disappear over the course of a long-term relationship. That makes me sad.
Oprah and Dr. Berman even have a 10-Second Kiss Challenge to help highlight how important kissing is to keeping a couple hot for one another. A quick Google search for "10 second kiss" will net tons of blog posts from men and women who have taken it for a test drive and enjoyed the boost to their sex lives.
With all this in mind, I came up with six tips for being a phenomenal kisser.
1. Get your lips in kissable shape. Be honest, leaning in to kiss someone with severely chapped and peeling lips is not appealing. Neither is garlic breath. Make that mouth appetizing by brushing your teeth and applying some lip balm to keep those smackers kissably soft.
2. Slow it down. These things can't be rushed. We're talking about passion here, not a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" apprach to sex. Enjoy the sounds of your partner breathing, smile at one another and just be. As you're taking pleasure in one another's company, the makeout session will just kinda happen.
3. Keep it interesting! A straight peck on the lips would be boring. Ten whole seconds with lips touching and nothing else going on? Boring! Try it slow, try it fast. Do it soft, and then do it hard. Add some tongue, then take it away and kiss close-lipped! You'll soon find you don't really have to think about it — you'll be making out like teenagers again. And that's when the fun starts …
4. Get those hands in on the action! Maybe you like to start out with arms wrapped up around one another or sweetly cupping each other's face. You don't have to keep your hands in one place though! Rake your fingernails down your partner's back and shoulders. Run your fingernails through their hair. If things get heated, dare to play a little grab-ass and see where it leads! Keep reading ...
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