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Shut it down.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Jun 02, 2017
Sometimes we’re too passive for our own good. We want to make a good impression or we want to keep that good impression long after its morphed into a relationship, so we keep annoyances and issues to ourselves, rather than confront our partners.
But when you allow any kind of negative behavior to go unchecked, you’re doing yourself and your relationship a disservice. Do you think that your partner will instinctively stop doing that thing that annoys you? Probably not.
There are some behaviors that you need to stop right away.
It’s hard to build a relationship when the other person isn’t honest with you or what they want. If all they’re looking for is sex and you want a relationship, how long can you not say anything until there’s a major blow up?
You can’t let someone get away with treating you like crap or not caring about your feelings, no matter how much you may like them. In the end, it isn’t worth it. If they’re displaying negative behavior at the start, it will only get worse as time continues.
There are certain behaviors that you need to shut down immediately — for your sake and for that of the other person. They may not think that when you tell them you won’t stand for something that it helps them, but the truth is it does. Negative behavior tends to intensify and destroy everything around and in its path.
When you stop letting someone get away with crap, you are taking a stand for yourself and how you wish to be treated. When you voice the things that you won’t tolerate in your life, it’s not about being self-centered; instead, it’s focusing on self-preservation.
Here's what you should NEVER let him get away with, per his Zodiac sign,
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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You need to shut it down when he tries to argue with you about everything. It's tedious — and besides, you're right most of the time. When he challenges you on everything you say, it means that he's trying to get a rise out of you and he doesn't value your relationship. The two of you can disagree but you should be able to find a middle ground so that you agree on most things. If he's just trying to put you in your place, then you've got to stop it before it gets out of control.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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You need to stop him from flirting with everyone in sight. He knows you get jealous and it's disrespectful to you and your relationship. He can admire from afar without hitting on other women. If he can't agree to this, then you need to kick him to the curb.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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You need to shut it down when he's constantly correcting you in front of other people, especially when he's usually wrong. You know it comes from a place of insecurity (on his part), but if you allow him to continue this behavior it's only going to get worse. You'll feel bullied to the point where you won't even want to speak. Don't let him get away with trying to take your power.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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You need to stop letting him off the hook from not being an active participant in your relationship. You're doing everything — from planning dates to surprising him with sweet gifts. He can't even be bothered to pick you up for a date; you always have to get him and then most of the time, he doesn't have any cash on him (and conveniently left his credit card at home) to pay for the date. If you don't stop it, you're going to resent him big time.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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You need to stop him from using you for your connections. Does he want a girlfriend or a manager? Sure, you know important people but if all he wants is an introduction from you to someone who can help his career, what do you get out of the relationship? You may just want him for his arm-candy appeal but if he can't see how special you are, is it worth it? Don't let him get away with using you for his own gain.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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You need to shut down his bad manners. Look, you're a strong, independent woman but that doesn't mean he shouldn't treat you with courtesy and respect. Does he even know what the word polite means? How can you ever introduce him to your parents if he's going to exhibit such rude behavior? You're the last person he should be treating poorly. Don't let him get away with not treating you like the Queen you are.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You need to stop fixing things when he messes up. He never takes responsibility for his actions — and why should he? He knows you'll make things right. He'll never learn to stand on his own if he can depend on you to get him out of any sticky situation he gets himself into. You're not his mother and it's not up to you to fix his boo-boos. This behavior will only get worse if you don't shut it down.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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You need to stop letting him call you at the last minute for a booty call. Hey, it's not that you're not an extremely sexual person but you'd like it if your feelings were considered and that if he wanted to see you, he could make a little effort and invite you out. If he thinks he can get away with only remembering you when he needs sex, that's all your relationship will ever be. Let him know it's not okay to only contact you when he needs a sexual release.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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You need to stop him from trying to go too fast in your relationship. It seems as if all you had was a couple of dates and he's already talking about moving in together and getting married. You're not that great with commitment and you're going to need some time to ease into a relationship. He needs to slow it way down and be respectful of your wishes. Don't let him get away without considering what you want and need.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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You need to shut it down when he says he doesn't need a job and can live off you. Say what? He can't depend on you to pay for everything. Besides, it's annoying that he wants to party all night, especially when you've got work in the morning. Don't let him get away with treating you as if you're his Sugar Mama.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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You need to stop letting him take the credit for all your great ideas and stories. Once is a fluke but time and time again, you catch him trying to pass off your intellectual property as his own. This is a serious offense and could lead to legal trouble down the road. Stop him now and encourage him to come up with his own ideas and inventions.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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You need to stand up for yourself and stop him from taking advantage of you all the time. You have a big heart and will always give someone a second chance and he knows this. It's almost as if he's testing you to see how far he can go before you finally shut him down. You need to show some respect for yourself and stop him in his tracks. You know that expression, "If you give an inch, they'll take a mile?" That's this guy. You've got to be diligent and not let him use you.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
