You could do a lot better.
There are some people who seem to kill it at having relationships... but you’re not one of them.
No matter what you do, it always seems as if you must constantly work at your relationships and even then, you’ve had quite a number of ones that have died a slow and painful death.
What is it about you and relationships that just doesn’t seem to work out?
At the beginning, you always have the best of intentions where your new relationship is concerned. Because you know the importance of good communication, you’re going to be honest and express your feelings as they happen.
You plan to really listen to your partner and try to fulfill their needs without suppressing your own.
But as time goes on, you start to lose some of your high hopes and you find it challenging to take care of your relationship. (Well, you can barely take care of yourself.)
You don’t have time to consider what’s best for your relationship; you’ve got a million other things that you must do and your relationship starts to suffer for it.
Before you know it, you and your partner are at odds and the tension is rising. You try to talk things out but your partner is losing their patience and the next thing you know, you’re single again.
You know what to do when the relationship you’re having is with yourself.
Then you meet someone new and suddenly the possibility of a healthy, successful relationship seems doable. You’ve learned from your mistakes; this time will be different and this relationship will last.
If you want to break your terrible relationship habits, astrology can help.
The stars can give you some insight on why you’re bad at relationships and help you to identify what characteristic you have that’s getting in the way of having a great relationship.
Here's why you're bad at relationships, according to your zodiac sign.
You don't hold back with anything. You act impetuously, blurt things out, and don't think about the consequences until later. You don't intend to hurt other people, especially the people that you love, but it happens — sometimes a lot.
You want what you want and you want it now, and if your partner messes that up in some way, watch out. You're impatient, demanding, and impulsive — all qualities which can test the strongest of relationships.
It takes you 500 years to open up and trust someone. Okay, maybe not that long, but still a long time. However, you expect everybody else around you to trust you enough to do what you want.
You're extremely stubborn and do not comprehend the word compromise. If someone doesn't want to play your way, then they can be on their way.
You tend to panic when things are going well in your relationship and it looks as if there could be a big commitment on the horizon. So you do what anyone who feels trapped would do: you sabotage it.
You forget about important dates, you flake out on plans, and you do everything (subconsciously) in your power to alienate your partner and destroy any chance of your relationship lasting.
You've convinced yourself that you don't do long-term but the fact is, you do, you're just reacting to your fear of commitment.
You want desperately to be in love and in a relationship so that when you've got them, you hang on too tightly and you get too needy. Your love is a precious gift, so try not to worry that your beloved won't know that.
You can trust them not to break your heart and if they do, know that you're strong enough to put yourself back together and move on. You've got to relax your grip on your partner or they're going to be overwhelmed by your needs.
Leos seem to be fueled by attention — they crave it the way some people crave chocolate. And your need for constant validation and compliments is exhausting.
Most people don't have the kind of energy needed to give all the attention a Leo demands. Not everything is about you, especially when you're in a relationship; sometimes you need to attend to your partner and make sure they feel supported and loved.
Once again, your hypercritical nature gets in the way of your own happiness. You can't help yourself with the high level of perfection that you demand from everyone and yourself. If your partner doesn't do something perfectly or makes mistakes, you criticize them.
When someone feels like they're not doing anything correctly, they're not going to stick around so you can point out even more of their faults. Ease up, Virgo, and remember that from mistakes and imperfections comes the true a-ha moments.
Libras are, for the most part, fantastic at relationships... well, they'll do what they have to in order for their relationship to work.
However, you often don't express your feelings because you want to avoid conflict, so those feelings get buried until you can no longer keep them down and they explode.
It's probably better to deal with your feelings as they come up, even if it means confrontation and conflict. You're better at it than you think.
You're fairly convinced that you're going to be screwed over and that your best course of action is to screw over your partner before they do it to you. Is pre-revenge a thing? It might be with you.
You're afraid that if your heart is broken, you'll be devastated. You've got so much that makes you good at relationships — passion, love, caring, and a genius-level capacity for sexual expression.
Try to not assume the worst and act as if you don't have anything to worry about because you probably don't. Trust that you're intelligent enough to make an excellent choice when it comes to the person with whom you'll share your life.
You're extremely independent and if you start to feel the emotional walls coming down you, you book it out of the relationship. You don't give your relationship time to go bad because if there's any indication of trouble, you don't want to deal with it, you just want to be out of the vicinity of heartbreak.
Sometimes you need to stay put and ground yourself enough to work out any problems. A good relationship is worth hanging around for.
You like money a lot and you're very good at getting and saving it... sometimes too much. It's okay to be practical and prudent but not stingy.
Don't punish yourself and your partner by never spending any money on non-essential items.
A vacation can be a necessary expense if it helps to bond you and your partner and the occasional gift isn't always impractical if it shows how much you love your significant other.
Because you tend to keep your emotions to yourself and you're reticent about sharing information about your life, you're always a big mystery.
It's difficult for any partner to feel as if they really know you and it can make them feel insecure.
You know you're accepting and loving but try opening up more so that your partner will know it, too.
You tend to jump into relationships without giving it much thought beforehand, so you make poor choices in regards to a partner.
You get swayed by your own overly-romantic ideas and once reality sets in, you lose interest in your relationship. Life isn't a romantic comedy but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing.
If you have a grown-up, clear-eyed relationship, it will be so much more satisfying and deeper than your fantasy relationship.