You need to face the truth.
Sometimes the truth can be staring you right in the face but you refuse to see it.
We’ve all been in the situation (and if you haven’t, count yourself the luckiest woman on earth) where we’ve liked a guy much more than he liked us. You don’t understand how they can’t feel the chemistry, the compatibility, the everything that happens between the two of you.
Is there something wrong with him? Is there something wrong with you? Your mind develops a thousand different scenarios on why he’s not completely into you.
But maybe your way of dealing with a mix matched set of feelings is not to deal with it at all and instead you just ignore your gut feeling that he’s not into you. You keep thinking he’s on the same page emotionally as you are.
Sometimes it works out and over time, the other person’s feelings grow. But other times it just leads to more frustration, unhappiness, and sadness for you.
It’s challenging to be able to be honest with yourself, especially if it seems counteractive to something you desperately want. Is it better to have them in your life as a friend or to have no contact whatsoever?
Once you get to a place where you start to question if things are ever going to work out between you, you’ll start to see signs everywhere that he’s just not into you. His body language, the tone of his voice and his actions confirm your suspicions, and you know the truth was there all the time, you just didn’t want to see it.
How is he showing you that he likes you but not in the same way you like him, based on his zodiac sign?
You expel so much energy keeping the conversation going, coming up with creative and fun things to do on the date, and making sure that he's having a good time. You're giving this relationship everything you've got and he's not even meeting you halfway. You shouldn't have to do everything and if he was really interested, he'd be an active participant in the dating process.
He keeps telling you that he's not that romantic or that he's not into romantic things. What he's really saying is that you don't inspire those romantic feelings in him. If he was interested in the way you want him to be interested, he'd be going out of his way to show you how special you are to him. He'd be sending you flowers, cooking you dinner, and falling all over himself to make you happy.
You're always asking him questions as you're genuinely interested in his thoughts and ideas, and he never asks you anything about yourself. Normally, you'd have no problem volunteering the information but he just doesn't seem that interested to find out about you. It's not that he's rude but clearly, he's not even the least bit curious about you.
He's sending you so many mixed messages, you feel as if your head is going to explode. One minute he seems as if he's very interested in you and taking your relationship to the next level, and the next moment he acts like he couldn't care less. He seems clueless to the fact that he's messing with your emotions.
You rarely do anything where it's just the two of you. Dating him seems to always involve big groups and gatherings, as if he needs a buffer between you and him. He doesn't make you feel special but like you're just one of the crowd. When it is just the two of you, he spends the whole time talking about himself.
He's never happy and is always finding fault with the clothes you wear and the things you do. You can take constructive criticism but this is beyond that. This feels as if he's searching for things to comment on as a way to distance himself. You're not perfect and he isn't either, and if he can't see how awesome you are right now, you need to move on.
He hasn't introduced you to a single person in his life. There's no reason to keep you on the D.L., and the fact that he won't even tag you on Facebook is distressing. Is he trying to keep his options open or are you a placeholder until someone he likes better comes along?
He's still Mr. Mystery. You've been dating for a while now and you still don't know anything about him. This whole mystery thing is getting old and getting on your nerves. What's he hiding anyway? You wonder if he's protecting himself from getting hurt or the fact that there's nothing behind that mystery, he's just boring.
He's always traveling, which is cool, but what doesn't fly with you is when he's been home for days and hasn't contacted you. It's not difficult to shoot a text or leave a message just to say he's thinking of you or that he's back. He doesn't exactly appear to be missing you if he can go so long without contacting you.
You never do anything that doesn't involve having sex. Hot sex is fantastic but when that's the only thing he's interested in doing with you, that's not a sign he wants a fully-realized relationship. Obviously, it's sex and sex only that he wants from you, but he doesn't want to seem like a dick.
He doesn't remember important details about you or your life. You've told him a hundred times that you're allergic to peanuts and yet, he'll still offer you a bite of his peanut butter pie. He doesn't care enough about you to really listen to what you have to say, nor does he seem interested enough in the information for it to remain in his memory.
He's nice to you and does any number of kind things for you, but you can tell there's no passion behind it. You don't inspire him or he'd be expressing in some kind of creative way. He doesn't want to hurt you and can be somewhat passive, so it's not unlikely that you could have a relationship where only one of you would be fully invested in it.