The stars know what gets you down.
Are you lowering your self-esteem without even knowing it?
It would be great if we came out of the womb with a great sense of self-esteem and kept it throughout our lives, but that’s not how it is. You might have a fantastic sense of self and all the self-confidence in the world but you’ll still have those times of doubt, insecurity, and anxiety. It’s natural and human to have those times when you feel a little less than.
Luckily, there are confidence-boosters that you can do to feel better and more confident.
Self-confidence isn’t something that you can ignore and hope that it’ll always stay intact — it’s like any muscle that must be exercised. You must keep a positive mindset and challenge yourself whenever you can.
When you’re feeling down and insecure, it can feel as if everyone is doing better and living better than you, and it’s tempting to just give up and wallow in sadness. Being confident takes a great deal of strength and perseverance.
Insecurity is what hurts self-esteem and can make you afraid to go outside of your comfort zone. You start to believe that because you’re not feeling confident, other people can see your insecurity and won’t treat you well.
You can live with insecurity and a lack of self-confidence but you miss out on a lot of the joys of life. You don’t have to be obnoxiously self-centered, but having an inner core of confidence will help you to handle almost any situation.
If you’re aware of the things that you may be doing that can eat away at your self-esteem, you can combat them. Here’s what hurts your self-esteem, based on your zodiac sign.
You're competitive about everything, so when you don't get the right amount of likes and comments on a picture share, you don't appreciate the amount you received; you feel annoyed that you didn't get more. Whenever you have a success at work, you don't celebrate it; you just beat yourself up for not doing better.
You should be ruling the world by now. You need to be grateful for what you've achieved so far and start believing that there will be more successes and accomplishments in the coming years. Appreciate, don't denigrate yourself.
You're terrified of change — any change. The problem is that change is good and can be a great way to feel better about yourself. You're not liking what you see when you see your reflection in the mirror but you're too stuck to get a new haircut or get a makeover. Don't let fear bring you down; instead, flip the script and make a change. You'll be surprised at how a change in your appearance can lift your spirits.
Your constant second-guessing is eroding your self-esteem. If you can't count on yourself to do the right thing, then you're left without a solid foundation underneath you. You question every decision that you make and you never feel good about the choices that you've made. You know you're smart, so stop overthinking and start believing that you'll do what's best for you.
You give too much power to other people. When you're in a fight or an argument with someone you love, you feel as if it's a personal fail. People will still love you when they disagree with you. The greatest love that you can have is self-love. Take back your power and focus in on yourself.
You put too much importance on what other people say about you. You act very confident and in some ways you are, but you always need there to be someone telling you how great you are. If you don't get the constant reassurances and compliments, you crumble. You need to believe your own hype. People love you and want to be around you, and that should be enough to keep your self-esteem on high.
You're too critical of yourself. Every time you're built up, you knock yourself down as you search for the mistakes you've made and the flaws that you have. You're eroding your self-esteem, chipping away at it with every negative thought you have about yourself.
It's easy to tell you to stop it but it's difficult to do as it's become ingrained in your personality. Just go a little easier on yourself and remember that you're good enough and to aim for absolute perfection is dangerous to your psyche.
You may be a long way from high school but life is like a popularity contest for you and you base your self-worth on the amount of cool people you have in your life. You need to be enough for yourself because even if you just have a few good friends, you're still a worthy person.
You tend to get involved with people who aren't good for you and don't treat you well. These toxic friends manipulate you into seeing yourself as less than you are and convince you that without them, you're nothing. F*ck them. Remember how amazing and spectacular you are and dump those toxic friends — let them try to screw up somebody else's self-esteem.
You tend to put your full attention on the one person who doesn't like you and you practically kill yourself trying to change their mind. Not everyone is going to be your biggest fan and that's just the way it is.
Focus on the positives about your personality such as being able to go anywhere and make friends. The world is your neighborhood bar and you charm people all over it. Let the non-liker go — you've got so many others that adore you.
Your plate is always too full as you tend to take on everyone else's problems and projects as well as your own. You're doing too much but you keep on pushing yourself and you aren't aware that it's making you feel like a failure.
You need to step back and see that it's not your responsibility to help everyone. Do what you moderately can and realize that you do a lot for everybody but that you need to refocus your attention on yourself.
When you make a mistake or fail at something, you overreact big time. You're sensitive and you don't let your failures go, you just keep going over and over them in your head. You're lovable even when you screw up and you need to remember that. It's not the end of the world if you trip and fall on your ass, even if people laugh. Things happen; people mess up but you'll continue to shine on.
You let people take advantage of you and instead of getting angry with them when it happens again and again, you blame yourself. It's great that you have such a trusting nature and the ability to give people second chances, but if those chances backfire, you shouldn't feel entirely responsible for the consequences. You're a good person, so try to see the big picture and make better choices.