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What makes you hesitant to trust?
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Jan 03, 2017
Trust is hard won but more easily lost. It can take a lot to trust someone, especially if you’ve been burned in the past.
When we put our trust in someone we hope that they won’t do something that will destroy our faith in them. If you trust someone and they betray you, it can (sometimes) be impossible for them to earn your trust again.
We all have our own various trust issues. Some of them may be founded on past experiences, some on the experiences of others, and some from unknown sources.
We want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and trust that they won’t screw us over, but being open to everybody is risky at best and can be frightening.
There are those who simply aren’t worthy of our trust and, hopefully, their untrustworthiness isn’t hidden. If you know what someone is capable of, both good and bad, you tend to tread carefully and not put your trust in them too quickly.
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Is it possible to have a good relationship with someone if you don’t trust them? You can, but what will happen is that you’re going to come to a point that you won’t be able to get past. We all have people in our life that we like a lot and enjoy their company, but we just don’t trust them.
What’s that old saying? I wouldn’t trust them as far as I could throw them. There are some people you trust with your house key but you wouldn’t trust them to make the right decision when it came to something regarding your health. There are many variances as far as trust goes.
What sets off the warning in your brain that you shouldn't trust? You may not know the answer until you’re faced with giving someone or something your trust. Astrology can help you see what provokes your trust issues. Here's what triggers your trust issues, according to your zodiac sign.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
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You're cool with a no strings attached relationship, but when things start to get serious, your fears of abandonment get triggered. You'd much rather be the person doing the dumping rather than the person getting dumped, so once you're triggered you'll be a little more lackadaisical when it comes to returning texts or emails.
You'll start treating them a little colder than you did before. In a way, it's a test to see if they're serious about taking your relationship to the next level. If they're still around after you put them through their emotional paces, then you might start to thaw out a little.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
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Can't everything just stay the same? When someone suggests some kind of long-term change — even something good that you like — you start to feel uncomfortable. In your mind, a person can't change because they just want to, so you'll start to imagine all kinds of motivations behind their changing.
If your partner starts working out, you'll be positive that they've got a new special someone in their life and they're trying to look good for them. Hey, Taurus, change is good! Without it, everything would become stagnant and boring.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
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Because of your own fear of commitment, it can be difficult for you to trust others and sometimes it feels as if you're searching for a reason to not trust your partner. If they're too much like you, you're convinced that they're probably cheating on you. If they're nothing like you, you don't trust that you're enough for them.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
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You don't handle breakups well, so you're what one might describe as gun shy. It takes a long time for you to trust anyone but once you do, you trust them too much and too quickly. Solid relationships take time; you don't rush the beginning, so try to keep things at a moderate pace.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
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It doesn't take much to trigger your trust issues because they're always there. It's very difficult for you to trust people and there aren't many people you do trust. When you've allowed your barriers to come down in the past, you got hurt. Everyone around you thinks that you're very open and loving, but they don't know that in your own way you keep them at arm's length.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
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You tend to overthink everything which leads to questioning of their motivation — if they're being honest with you and if they're secretly trying to pull one over on you. It's exhausting. It's very difficult for you not to analyze everything, especially the behavior of your partner. But if you can try, you'll feel much better about your relationship.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
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You tend to put an unbelievable amount of weight on your decisions, so much so that you fear one decision on your part will cause the collapse of everything around you. You don't believe in your abilities and you lack confidence which makes you insecure. You believe if you decide to trust the wrong person, the consequences will be disastrous to your heart and to your well-being.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
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If you catch someone in a lie, even if it's a small, inoffensive, no-one-gets-hurt lie, your trust is immediately broken. If they can lie about where they bought their shoes, they can lie about their feelings and their motivations. If you're on a truth rampage, no one is safe from your wrath. When you lose your faith in someone, you're done.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
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Your trust issues are triggered when you start to take steps toward a long-term commitment. Will you be forever tied down by this person? What about travel and growth? Will you just be forced to stay the same? Ties and security can be beautiful things and just because you have responsibilities it doesn't mean you lose your freedom.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
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You have many goals and challenges for yourself and on the rare times that you mess up or make a mistake, it triggers a ton of trust issues. How can you trust that you're enough for your partner and that you won't make a horrible mistake where they're concerned?
You think that because you're not perfect, your partner could do a lot better than you. You're fairly convinced that it's only a matter of time before you ruin everything and your partner gets the hell out.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
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You've got a highly active imagination, which is cool unless you're picturing all the ways that your partner could break your heart or mess up your life. Here's the thing: there are no guarantees in life and love, and sometimes you just have to trust that the love someone has for you is real and they aren't planning your murder.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
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You're very trusting. Well, until your friends start gossiping about everyone else's horrible romantic lives and then, by osmosis, you start to wonder if they're actually talking about your partner that's cheating with the clerk at the bank. You need to trust your own instincts and not listen to your friends. If you know in your heart that you can trust your partner, then do just that.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
