Wait for the right person.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’m kind of a mess.
Being in the beginnings of my career, I’m still trying to figure out how to balance everything, and I honestly don’t know if it will ever get easier to do. My apartment has a consistent pile of clothes on the floor, and at least four times a week I forget to feed my fish.
There’s a lot going on, and it can be too much for some people.
It happens, and I’m not too worried about it.
Because I’m lame, and I still believe in fate. I still hold on to the idea that there’s some poor dude out there who’s crazy will compliment my crazy. Someone who I’ll never have to explain my schedule to or defend my reasoning for staying up till 3 a.m. to get ahead on work.
Somebody who gets it, because they get me.
That’s the magic sauce we should all be holding out for. We can complicate our lives and create so much internal chaos when we try to force relationships and love with people who’s lifestyles aren’t the same as ours.
We spend so much time and effort trying to get them to understand when it’s pretty much wired in their brains that they won’t.
Now, I think any relationship can work if the right amount of effort is put in, but I also think it comes to a point where the point is lost.
Why are we trying to be so happy with someone who doesn’t fit us when we can be happier all on our own?
I do believe there’s someone out there who will understand your quirks and your ticks. Someone who knows not to interrupt you when you’re in the middle of a project, or that you sometimes like to go on random walks at midnight to clear your head.
You shouldn’t be with someone who’s constantly trying to change you, just as you shouldn’t be with someone you feel like you have to change. If you all you’re attached to is the potential, then it’s time to face reality and realize the potential isn’t enough.
You deserve someone who not only understands — and loves — the most basic parts of your brain, but makes a real, honest effort to understand the parts that they don’t.
Because that’s what love is all about.