A lot of my slightly older friends love to tell me that I don’t get it. They say that because I’m young (a.k.a 23, a.k.a. practically an infant), I don’t get the pressure they feel to fall in love and get married.
My mom told me that something happens when you turn 25. It’s like around every corner is happy couple with a baby on the way, and you can’t help but feel three steps behind everyone.
I have yet to hit that magic number, but I hope when I do I’m more concerned with what I want to be doing rather than what I feel like I should be doing. My biological clock isn’t really ticking, but I hate to think that my friends are feeling pushed to find love because they’ve hit that 25-year mark.
You should be with someone you sets your world on fire and treats with the upmost respect and love.
You should be with your best friend, confidant and biggest fan.
You shouldn’t hitch a ride on someone’s life based on the fact that you feel like you’re running out of time.
Thankfully, none of my closest friends are settling for men and relationships even though they feel that push. They’re staying strong, bettering their lives and trusting the right guy will come at the right time.
But I do see a lot of ladies chasing after literally any man with a penis. Their “girls nights” have turned into “husband hunting,” and it’s not a fun transition to watch.
These are awesome women, with killer careers who shouldn’t have to worry about a guy coming along.
Because it’s almost like the moment you make that your focus, the guys all sense it and start running.
Love is serious, sure, but not in the beginning. Not in the dating and getting to know each other phases. That should all just be fun.
But it can’t be if you feel like you have an internal clock counting down to doomsday.
Let go of the idea that you need to be settled down by a certain age.
Merging lives with another human is messy and involves a lot of growing pains. The only thing that makes it worth it is the person.
So don’t settle.
Don’t rush because you’re scared you’ll never find someone.
Take your time and make sure that the person you want to settle with is deserving of that kind of love from you.