Finally, advice that makes sense.
Many people say that marriage as an institution is "going out of style".
Talk to a group of 20-somethings and you'll likely hear them extol the virtues of casual dating, working on one's self, building a career, and getting out of student loan debt. Some people assume this means millennials aren't interested in love and long-term commitment. But, look deeper — that's not really the case.
Millennials aren't snubbing love. They're just taking care of more immediate needs right in front of them. Finding a job and stabilizing their life so they can buy food to eat and afford rent.
Marriage and intimate relationships are further up the food chain. As Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs clearly states, we need to feel safe and secure LONG before we need to bond with another person. But that doesn't mean the desire to find a life partner has gone away, it's merely taken a back seat to more important matters.
It's not a question of IF people will marry, just a matter of WHEN.
Yes, young people have raised the average age of marriage, but research still shows that 78 percent of women and 70 percent of men see a good marriage and family life as "extremely important" to them.
So, whether you're marrying today or waiting until further down the road ... what can you do NOW to make sure you're ready for a successful relationship when the time comes?
We brought this question to our panel of Experts to discuss. Senior VP of YourTango Melanie Gorman sat down with renowned biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher; therapist and life/love/relationship coach Marcie Telander; psychotherapist, trainer and author Ross Rosenberg; and relationship help doctor Dr. Rhoberta Shaler to get to the bottom of what all couples (young and old) need to master in order to make a modern relationship work.
Collectively, the panel all agrees on one thing — the health of the bond between the couple IS the litmus test tof whether that relationship can last over the long haul.
Cultivating an intimate bond (where trust, honor, faithfulness and friendship reign) is what the panel suggests we all need to make a happy marriage last.
So, we ask you this: If you're like the millions of other people who want a healthy, intimate relationship, are you truly prepared to be the partner you most want to meet? Look in the mirror at some point and ask yourself if you're bringing the same relationship skills, love and smarts to the table that you also want to find in a partner.
If you are, congratulations, you're well on your way. But, if you're not, then clearly you have some work cut out for you.
Watch the video above again and as the Experts share their ideas and insights, jot them down. Then, ask yourself how well you score on those essential skills. If the answer is poorly, reach out to any of the Experts for help by clicking their name above and visiting their website.
Just remember, you're in control of the relationships you create (now and in the future). The universe has an amazing way of bringing just the right relationships to us at just the right time. So trust you're journey.