Anger Management

Years in Practice

25 Years


Escondido CA 92025 - United States



Additional Expertise

Counselor/Therapist, Marriage Educator, Mediator, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

I Practice in

All areas, please inquire



I Believe

I love the work I do. It's been a joy to offer relationship help for the past 25 years to individuals and couples in need. Inspiring people with hope makes a hugely positive difference in the world around us, and to me that is work worth doing and proof of a life well lived.

About Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

​As a relationship consultant and counselor, I offer relationship help to my clients to support them with stressful and high conflict partnerships. 

What does this look like? 

High conflict partnerships are ones where you feel like you're "always wrong". It could be with your spouse, your co-worker or a friend. The experience for you is that you are "never right"; no matter what you do, or how hard you try, it's never "right." In many high conflict relationships you frequently experience emotional extremes: high times and very low times, love and hate, breaking up and working it out. It's a rollercoaster ride, for sure.

Ultimately you spend a lot of time and emotional energy trying to "fix" your relationship but are left feeling lost about what to do.

This is where I can help you.

Relationships like this are exhausting. This is partially true because people often don't realize they are in a high conflict relationship. Arguing, feeling ignored and feeling like you're never good enough become "normal". Even though a big part of your heart and brain knows this can't possibly be true.

I'm want you to listen to that voice.

The part of you that tells you that "this isn't normal" is on to something and this is where I can help you. When you love someone who pushes you away, yet demands that you stay it is not only confusing, it's a betrayal and no one can live with that push and pull for long, without giving in or giving up. 

Does it mean your relationship has to end? Not necessarily. But, it does mean that you need some support to figure out how bad things are going to get and what, if any, hope is there to recover the love that you once shared.

If this is the situation you're in, I can absolutely help you. 

The quiet voice in your head/heart that speaks to you tells you that things need to get better; that you don't have to be quite so miserable in your relationship; that you're worth more and that healthy love isn't so hard... LISTEN to that. And reach out. I'm here.  

As a counselor/therapist, I offer urgent and ongoing care for couples and individuals across the globe. I have been working with people struggling with life, death, and relationship for over thirty years in the United States and Canada and it's my mission to bring hope, comfort, strength, insights, and success to people who may have given up believing a healthier relationship and happier life was possible. 

To learn more visit www.ForRelationshipHelp.com  


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