10 People Reveal What It's REALLY Like To Have A Threesome

Of course, I could read up on things like the go-to positions that work best with three people, or the best way to choose partners to have a menage trois with. I could even watch a few threesome pornos to see it all spelled out for me.

But what I'm really after are some concrete answers on how to have a threesome and initiate it. Do you talk about it with those who are going to be involved beforehand? Where do these threesomes take place? Who decides that this is happening? Is there a safe word to use for if/when things get weird?

To get to the bottom of this, I asked a few threesome enthusiasts to enlighten me on how to have a threesome and how their experiences got started.

1. Our friend caught us and joined.

"I was with my boyfriend at the time, and we were going at it. A friend walked in, so we stopped, but then he asked if he could watch. We said yes, and then one thing led to another. It was a strange experience and probably led to the demise of the relationship because I began to have trust issues. It's probably not an experience I would want to have again!"

2. My girlfriend and her friend suggested it.

"I was 17 and on vacation when I met this girl. We hit it off and hooked up all week. I went back the next year and we met up. She brought a friend with her. We got hammered and headed back to the hotel. It was semi-awkward, but the three of us hopped into the hotel room and the girls suggested fooling around together and that I video tape it... then they just pulled me into it."

3. My wife thought it would spice up our marriage.

"My wife and I talked about having sex with a third person. Quite a bit actually. I had a friend that is quite cute and my wife and I discussed with each other if we wanted to go after her. After talking about it with each other we approached her together. She seemed excited, so we went out for drinks to calm our nerves and then back to our place for the night time fun."

4. My hookup buddy had a bisexual roommate. 

"I was sleeping with a guy who was bi and his roommate was also bi. He asked if I would be interested in a threesome, which I totally was into with two men! They invited me over and the three of us got freaky. It was the time I ever tried double vaginal penetration. I didn't think they would both fit, and yet they did and it was glorious!"

5. I had a casual encounter with a man and his girlfriend.

"My first threesome was with a guy I met online through craigslist. Initially, I was going to meet up with him and just get him off after work that day. We spent much of the day chatting and it came out that he had a girlfriend. I pressed him more and he told me that they had had threesomes together in the past and that he would be willing to do it again."

6. I was dating two women and got them together.

"I was dating an older, separated woman who wanted to experience everything she hadn't in her marriage. At that same time, I was also seeing a bisexual young woman. They both confessed to me that they'd never had a threesome and wanted to. I made the (somewhat risky) choice to tell each of them about the other. Each was intrigued but, of course, wanted to meet the other one before saying yes. So I set them up on a date to see if they'd get along, without me there. They ended up making out in the bathroom at the bar on their date, so it went well! They both contacted me and were very happy and couldn't wait for the threesome to happen. I rented a hotel room the next week and we all met up and had a blast!"

7. My casual friend brought his buddy over without telling me.

"There was this older guy that I would hang out with every now and then. Midway through hanging out at his place, his doorbell rings and he tells me, 'Oh, my friend is coming over.' His friend was younger and really attractive. No one spoke until the older guy told his friend to undress. So I did too, and that's how it got started."

8. She and her best friend took me home.

"I had met G and A through a mutual friend after moving to a new city. They were best friends, and pretty funny. One night, it came out that I had finally broken things off with my boyfriend and G, A and I went on to have QUITE a night. We went to one of our favorite bars, and I noticed they were both standing a little closer to me than they usually would. Even weirder, I noticed I didn't mind it at all. I remember thinking how weird it was, that it felt like they were BOTH hitting on me that night. After what some may deem an excessive amount of alcohol, we headed back to A's place. Once there, I realized that I didn't have to choose. Now, I'm not saying they necessarily planned this ahead of time, but I wouldn't be shocked if they had maybe jokingly mentioned it to each other, and a bit of liquid courage allowed them to see how far they could take it."

9. He took me back to his place and his friend joined.

"I met a guy who invited me over to his place. When I got there, he told me, 'My friend is here, but if you don't like him I'll tell him to leave because I'd rather hang out with you.' The friend had never had a threesome, and it was kind of weird because I was very drunk at that point, but it became clear that the guy who invited us over clearly had both of us there just to please him."

10. My two college friends and my boyfriend had an orgy.

"Two college girlfriends and I were at brunch, and we were joking about having an orgy. After several bottomless glasses of mimosas, my boyfriend and his friend showed up and took us to a beer garden. Some naughty photos followed, the other guy cozied up to both girls and before we knew it, two bottles of yellowtail and two boxes of Trojans were purchased and we were all going at it in my living room. The next morning, the other three had a very awkward subway ride home while my boyfriend was happier than I had ever seen him."