Is your sex life lacking a certain special something? We've got your back.
When you first start dating a guy, things in the bedroom are so fun and exciting, right? He's a new body and you have some discovering to do together. You (hopefully) let each other know what you generally like and dislike. Sex seems different every time, even though it may not be. But that doesn't matter, because it still feels spicy. You've tried new things, repeated them, and have gotten good at it.
However, time passes and maybe your bedroom routine is getting a little … routine. Failing to spice things up in the bedroom can lead to boredom and can make us feel like we're having sex because we have to, not because we want to. Sex turns into a chore when it becomes stale. So to combat this, trying new things in between the sheets—or out of them—is often a good solution. He's happy, you're happy, we're all happy.
Venturing to try new things, especially when it comes to sex, can be scary, daunting, and even a little embarrassing. But with good communication and a desire to turn up the heat, you and your partner can be well on your way to setting your bedroom (or other rooms) ablaze.
1. Get a mirror.
Put a mirror next to and/or above your bed. Having different angles to look at of you two getting frisky will turn him on even more. Setting up a floor-length mirror behind you while you go down on him gives him a great view he may never have experienced.
2. Use ice cubes.
Try lightly running an ice cube down his neck and then licking the cold water. The difference between the coldness of the ice and warmth of your tongue is sensational. Don't be afraid to explore other parts of his body with this icy-hot move!
3. Surprise BJ.
Give your man a surprise blowjob. Good times to do this are before he wakes up, while he's working at his desk, or while he's on the phone. Surprising him on the phone would cause him to really focus on not letting the person on the other line know what was going on, and would amp up the excitement!
4. Film yourselves.
If you don't want to watch other people have sex, watch yourselves! Next time you two are in the sack, set up a video camera and film yourselves. Who knows, you might learn a thing or two on the playback!
5. Remote-controlled pleasure.
This one isn't for the weak, folks. It's for the daring. While you wear a sex toy, your guy gets to control how much pleasure you receive and how often you get it. To really enhance the excitement and push your limits, try it in a public place. You'll have no choice but to take it and secretly enjoy.
6. Read an erotic story.
Read an erotic story to him (in a sexy voice, naturally). Add some character to it by not remaining motionless. Make eye contact with him while you read and incorporate some sensual movement. After you've finished reading, reenact exactly what went down in the story.