When it comes to getting to know someone, there are certain things that should just be left unsaid — At least, in the beginning. Let us paint the scene for you. You're on a first date and the guy asks you why you got divorced. Do you tell him the entire story, which lasts forty minutes, or do you brush it off and re-focus the attention on the present? If you tell him the entire story, you're doing it wrong.
When YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman and relationship experts Marla Martenson,Carin Goldstein, Jen Duchene and Kelly Rudolph talk about the importance of avoiding certain conversation topics on a first date, we couldn't agree more. For starters, giving everything away before you can even figure out if he's really interested in you or not may end up working against you. If you were thinking of mentioning your list of medications or any major issues that you've had in past relationships, think again. To be quite honest, the first date is not the time for that conversation. Don't give your cards away all at once. At the end of the day, dating is about fun so make sure you have it!
The two of you have such a good time together. You could have fun being out and social, engaging in an activity, or doing absolutely nothing at all. Life is challenging, so a partner who lifts your spirts and helps you lighten up is a definite keeper.
Everyone you introduce him to sees what you see–a truly good man who cares about you. It's hard not to adore a man who lights you up inside. When the people who know and love you best give your man a solid thumbs up, that's a guy worth keeping around.