These may be the world's oldest sex toy. So no need to be afraid.
I was introduced to ben wa balls back in 2003. I always liked going to the adult toy stores with my guy and looking around for new stuff. I will admit that although I knew what most of the sex toys in the store did, whenever I saw those little balls I was baffled.
So I decided to buy a set, and then I got online and did a little research.
A really quick history of ben wa balls
Ben Wa Balls originated in Japan around 500 AD and were originally used to give men a little extra pleasure during intercourse. You know women are smart, so we realized that if men could benefit from the extra sensations … we could benefit as well. The feeling of these free floating balls in the vagina caused women to become sexually aroused as well as other benefits.
Ben wa balls can be as small as regular marbles to about an inch in diameter. The balls the Japanese used were metal and had mercury inside them; the movement of the mercury caused tiny sensations in the vagina and with some women, this movement could bring them to orgasm. I have read stories of women holding Ben Wa balls in their vagina and doing housework, building their sexual arousal during the day for when their husbands came home from work. I also read that women would sit with the balls in their vagina and rock themselves to orgasm.
Ben wa balls today
Today Ben Wa Balls are made of different types of materials — metal, plastic, latex, glass, even jade (of course mercury is no longer legal). It is important to pick balls that do not easily collect bacteria so I suggest metal or glass. Try to find balls that are hollow and weighted with smaller metal balls inside them; these balls move as you move causing your vaginal muscles to tighten due to the sensation.
Some women keep their ben wall balls in for a few hours while others the entire day. Beginners should probably start out with small set of balls and graduate up to larger heavier ones. I suggest you use your balls at home before wearing them out in public. You don't want to lose your balls in your pants at the office and put yourself in an uncomfortable situation.
What to do with your balls
Insert your balls into your vagina. You can use some lube if you want to help slide them in ... but I doubt that you will need to. Once inside, they will feel no different than a tampon and within a few minutes, you will not feel them at all.
Depending on the weight of your balls when you become active, you will feel the balls jiggle inside your vagina and possibly begin to slide down. I have never experienced the slide down feeling but I felt I should warn you just in case. The feeling of the balls is very slight, this slight movement of the inner balls, will cause your kegel muscles to tighten. Depending on your sensitivity, you will begin to feel aroused.
Some balls come stringed and others are not. I prefer the non-stringed version for cleanliness reasons. Some women prefer the stringed version of the balls to ensure they can reach them to pull them out ... but don’t worry, all you have to do is push down and the balls will come out easily.
Benefit of the balls
- strengthen your muscles to stop or hold the flow of urine
- Kegel exercises and ben wa balls are good for older women who are beginning to lose urinary control
- cause clitoral erection during sexual arousal
- rhythmically contract during sexual orgasm
- support the bladder, uterus and rectum
The balls work your Kegel muscles and over time will increase your sexual pleasure. I am not sure if you noticed but the more you squeeze during intimacy the better sex feels for you and your man. It has been proven that the stronger your Kegel muscles are the more intense your orgasms will be.
Using these balls is the easiest and most effective way to work out your muscles because your vagina is forced to flex to keep the balls in when you are active.
You can also leave the balls in during intercourse, when your mans penis thrusts it will move the balls around inside you. He will like the added sensation and I actually experienced my first cervical orgasm from doing this. Men say they like the added sensation of the balls during intercourse as well.
Ben wa balls and technology
You can now purchase vibrating ben wa balls. The negative of the vibrating balls is there is a control, which will make it hard to wear them in public like normal balls. I can just picture someone walking around with a remote hanging out of her pants. I have never tried them, but I can imagine they feel great during intercourse and will give your Kegels a really good work out.
To sum it all up, the balls are good to use while having sex and tightening your Kegel muscles, which in the end makes for a more pleasurable sexual experience. They are also good for older women who are beginning to lose urinary and bowel control. There is no harm in using the balls everyday and with the increased activity in your vagina; you may even experience an increase in your sex drive … I know I did.
Lastly, anytime you are trying something new with your partner it is good to communicate with your partner letting him know what it is you are doing. Go to the toy store or search for them online together and share with him what you have learned in the blog. It can be a very fun experience and exciting experience.