Love. Sex. Boys. Girls. The same problems and frustrations again and again. We've been there countless times, wondering when we'll find that ONE, that perfect person we want to stay with forever and ever. Even in a relationship, we reach a point where the person we're with doesn't feel as special as he or she used to. Maybe we start picking at flaws or noticing other people, wondering if we'd be happier with them. And once again, the relationship begins its slow decline.
What if you could guarantee a spark that lasted—no matter who you were with—and a happier life to go along with it?
The ancient teachings of Buddhism suggest that we can do just that if we transform our relationships into spiritual partnerships. If we use our relationships to make us wiser, kinder and more compassionate, we can actually change how they function. We can have the relationships and lives we've always dreamed of.
So what exactly is a spiritual partner? He or she is an ally for personal growth. You both decide that you want to work together to become your best selves as quickly as possible. You commit to helping and loving each other—and, here's the key—everyone around you. Because, it is only when you are living love and kindness that your relationship will truly flourish. Try it and see. When put into practice, you can make all your dreams come true. Read: 4 Ways To Improve Your Relationship Karma
How do you do it?
Whether you're in a relationship or seeking a new one, here are 10 methods for building a spiritual partnership.
1. Commit to something higher.
The element that elevates a spiritual partnership beyond an ordinary relationship is the revolutionary idea that your role is to support each other on your path to reach ultimate evolution, to become your best self. Get clear that what you are looking for is not just physical security or emotional support but spiritual evolution. This means you are supporting each other in your mutual quest to become a more "enlightened" being. Whatever goals you set for your relationship will dictate how it functions day to day. If your goal is company, or financial security, don't expect long-term satisfaction. If your goal is radical evolution of your body, mind and spirit, expect fulfillment beyond your dreams.
2. Be what you want your partner to be.
Make a list of the qualities you most want in a partner. Instead of looking for amazing features in someone else, develop them in yourself. For example: If you want a partner with financial stability, get stable yourself! You want someone fun? BE fun! The beauty of perception is that you will see all your own qualities, both good and bad, reflected back to you in your partner. Be complete in yourself, and you will see completion in your partner.
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