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"I have always been the nice guy," he says. "Ready with an honest compliment and holding the door, etc. It’s not an act—it's just how I am."
Wow. What a freak. He gives compliments and opens the door? Congratulations Nice Guy. You sound like a normal person. The Links: Big Girls Need Love & Google Goggles
Anyway, NG laments how hard it is to meet women and suspects his good nature is the culprit. Enter David DeAngelo, the guest columnist and author of Double Your Dating, a series of tutorials aimed at teaching men how to score chicks. Basically, DeAngelo is a less is more kind of a guy. Less compliments, less old school chivalry, less consideration, less of anything nice basically. Numb down your "Inner Wuss" he says, because this repulses women.
DeAngelo responds with:
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Trust me on this one. Women don't feel those powerful, magical, gut-level emotions for "nice" guys. It may suck, it may not be "fair" and it may not be "right" or whatever. Get used to it—it's reality."
You can feel him beaming through the keyboard; catching his reflection on the computer screen.
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The plot thickens when he gets another response from a guy who's read his tutorials, incorporated his tactics, but now, uh-oh, she calls him "mean."
"You have brought up a really important (and subtle) point about how women behave around men. When you stop chasing after and kissing up to women, you will often hear things like "you're being mean" and "I'm upset, and I don't know why" etc. When you challenge women on this point, you'll find the real reason: Women get upset when they don't have control of a situation...Women aren't trying to turn us into Wusses; on the contrary, they're trying to see if we actually are wusses, and just pretending not to be. Get it? When you realize this subtle distinction, you are well on your way to learning to use The Force."