Is your partner still the same man you married? Does he have the same pep in his step and sense of idealism that you fell for back when he was buying you drinks and begging for a second date? Perhaps he's a bit wearier, a bit weightier or even a bit weathered from the financial storm that has threatened to take the fun and spontaneity out of marriage.
Don't let life's downers drag you down. Moreover, don't allow your hectic schedules and harried lifestyles make you so preoccupied you forget to have a little fun. When couples get complacent in their marriage, problems could be brewing on the horizon.
MSNBC recently explored the idea of how boredom affects divorce and while the idea that ennui can lead to splitsville is scary, the solution is surprisingly easy. "Shared challenges and exciting diversions are what make relationships hot long after the wedding gown has been packed up and stored away" the article states. "Boredom and a dull, daily routine, can kill a marriage, squashing intimacy and romance."
Dr. Barbara Bartlik, an assistant professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell Medical Center tells her patients "Make yourself more exciting instead of blaming your partner. Better yet, see if you can’t find something that you’re both passionate about that you can share."
Shared passions sound easy enough, right. And if you're about to say, "But we don't have the money to tour Europe on horseback right now," remember that little things, like reading a book together or enjoying a bottle of wine, can be just as passionate as extravagant vacations or expensive entertainment.
Here are 5 simple hobbies that can help couples reconnect and prevent a relationship from getting dull.