Lifelong Attraction: 7 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Sexy Forever


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YourTango Experts offer advice on keeping sexual heat alive in marriage.

"Lifelong Attraction: 7 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Sexy Forever" is sponsored by Zestra.

True or false: The can't-keep-your-hands-off-each-other honeymoon phase will inevitably wear off in a relationship, especially once you're married.

If you're like most of us, you probably answered "true." But before you panic that marriage automatically turns late-night rendezvous into late-night Letterman, know this: according to a recent survey of more than 20,000 people conducted by YourTango, Glo and, 90 percent of people believe that if attraction in a relationship decreases it's possible to reignite it.

Even better news? It's true! There's proof that the high people get from first falling in love actually can persist years into a relationship. In a recent experiment, Helen Fisher, Ph.D., biological anthropologist and author of Why Him? Why Her?, looked at brain scans of couples who had been married an average of 21 years who said they were still romantically in love with their partners.

"We found that the area in their brain that's responsible for romantic love that was just as lit up as people who had just fallen in love," Fisher says. But what if lust and attraction have waned?

"It's totally natural for the type of love you feel for your partner to shift over time," Fisher assures. "There are three brain systems involved with falling and staying in love—sex drive, romantic love, and a deep feeling of attachment. It's natural for couples to move from one phase to another, and back."

Next: How to hold on to that loving feeling...

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