In the online dating game, wouldn't you like to be able to tell right off the bat if a guy will be a good match for you? Even better, don't you want to see the red flags in his profile before your date ends up being a total disaster? As hard as it is to believe, these little signs can actually be the difference between finding someone who is relationship material or just meeting a player who is only looking for a good time without the commitment.
Image Consultant and Matchmaker Kimberly Seltzer offers awesome tips on how to determine if the guy you're interested in is a good match. For starters, it's imperative to look out for all of the tell-tale signs that his profile page is bound to have. One thing to pay close attention to is his profile picture. If he is wearing something that is way out there (or better yet, nothing at all), or even takes his picture in the bathroom, it is likely that he is really after one thing — And is also probably a narcissist. With all these signs out in the open, the most important thing to remember is you have to figure what you are looking for: Is it a serious relationship or a fling? Don't ever go on a date without knowing what you're looking for. How else are you supposed to know if he's looking for the same thing?
Hi I’m Kimberly Seltzer with Ask an Expert answering your love and relationship questions. Today’s question is: Dear Kimberly, I want to know if there are tell-tale signs online if a guy is a good match for you or not. What are they?
Well, actually there’s a lot of things that you can look at to determine whether a guy is good for you right from the get-go. Ladies, if he is wearing something that is inappropriate or if he’s half naked or if he’s taking it in his bathroom he’s probably after one thing, so really pay attention to that. The other thing is the picture clear or is it really hard to see him? He might be hiding something. Maybe he doesn’t even care about this whole dating thing. There’s a lot of messages behind the picture. The other thing is, is he in a picture with a bunch of women? What does that say about him? So that’s the first thing.
The second thing is to look at the content of what he is writing. Overall, is there a nice flow to his writing almost as if there is a conversation going on? To me that means that guy is gonna be kind of having a give-and-take when it comes to a relationship. Or is he just trying to sell you and just talking about himself the entire time and how great he is? Be leary of those guys. The other thing to keep in mind is the user name. And I know this sounds funny but if the user name is gottahavesex19 I’m sorry that usually means what kind of guy he is and what he’s after. But with that being said ladies, you have to be clear on what it is you want at this moment in time. If you want to have a little fun and just date lightly and you want to, you know, flavor those kind of guys then go for it. If you want a relationship, look at the key elements online that would detect a relationship kind of guy.
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