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How To Know If You're Really Ready For A Relationship [VIDEO]


How to know if you're ready to take the next step when you're not even sure what this feeling is.

Even though your palms are sweating and it's getting harder to speak, you've finally mustered up the courage to confront the cute guy that you've been crushing on for months. It's almost as if time stops for those first few seconds after you push your nerves aside and just tell him how you feel; and when he says that he feels the same, you can't help the smile that breaks.

But what is love and what isn't?

Although you both seem to be on the same page, there's a difference between having the guts to be open about your feelings and actually being ready for a relationship. Relationship expert John Gray stresses the fact that before you jump into anything new, you need to be in the right mindset. How can you figure out if you're ready to take the next step if you're not even secure in your single status? YourTango experts Tammy NelsonSusan HeitlerAnnie Gleason and Margaret Paul back this up by saying it's important to make sure that you're comfortable with who you are as a person so you don't end up losing yourself along the way. Always love yourself first and foremost because if you don't, who will?