Talking dirty is surprisingly easy. I'm going to give you a very simple roadmap that is going to teach you how to talk dirty to your man without getting nervous or feeling awkward about it, while turning your man on in a big way. (If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips, tactics and techniques, you'll find them in this powerful video.)
A massive problem when it comes to learning how to talk dirty to your man is that most people think that in order to sound sexy and hot you need to be over-the-top, graphic, vulgar and nasty when choosing your words. I'm not sure why so many people believe this, but I have a sneaking suspicion that it's because most people's first contact with dirty talk is through pornography. Anyway, let me enlighten you with a really easy way to learn how to talk dirty.
Start With Something This Easy: The first thing you need to do when learning how to talk dirty to your man is doing something so easy that there is no chance for failure. This is perfect for building up your confidence. The easiest thing you can do if you want to be more vocal in bed is to simply sigh, moan and groan louder than you normally would. This works best if you have your mouth right next to your man's ear. So what kinds of things should you moan. It really is easy:
That's it. There is literally nothing else you need to do to start talking dirty and show him that you are enjoying yourself and that he's turning you on. If you are looking for more specific dirty phrase to say to him, then you may find what I talk about in this video to be very helpful.
The Next Step In The Dirty Talking Process Once you have tried moaning, breathing and sighing in your man's ear more loudly than normal, the next thing you need to do is take it up a notch. You are going to start actually using words when talking dirty.
Thankfully this again is very easy. You aren't going to be using super long sentences or dirty talk phrases. You are simply going to be using 1 or 2 words. So what kinds of things can you say to your man? Try these dirty talking examples:
- "Don't Stop"
- "Keep going"
It really is as simple as what you've just read. You don't have to shout these phrases either, simply whispering them in your man's ear works perfectly. After trying these dirty words with your man and you have built up your confidence a bit, start switching between sighing and using dirty words. If you only get this far with talking dirty, you'll already be ahead of the majority of women learning how to talk dirty.
Once you have mastered both moaning and using 1 or 2 word dirty talk phrases, it's time to take your dirty talk to the next level. This is using whole phrases when in bed with your man. The key to doing this confidently is first using short dirty phrases with your man and then when you are comfortable with using short phrases, move on to using longer and more descriptive phrases. Here are a few short phrases you can use on your man when learning how to talk dirty to him:
- "You feel so good!"
- "I want to feel you deep!"
- "I love you on top!"
- "I just want to be yours."
When you are reasonably comfortable using these short phrases, then you should try to incorporate longer ones like these examples:
- "I wish you could just do that all night long!"
- "I love seeing you on top of me, dominating me!"
- "I just want to be your little toy, someone for you to use."
- "Feeling you inside me is incredible. I've been missing you all week!"
Both the short and long phrases are equally effective when learning how to talk dirty to your man, but the longer phrases are a little harder to remember in the heat of the moment.
Once you are comfortable using all these different types of naughty talk, then it's time to get creative, by coming up with your own dirty talking lines and phrases. At first, you'll find that it's easier to actually think them up and memorize them before you are in bed with your man, but as time passes and your confidence increases, talking dirty will become second nature to you and you'll be able to think up dirty things to say on the spot.
So now that you have a roadmap on how to talk dirty to your man inside the bedroom, what about outside the bedroom, when you are just hanging out? Talking dirty outside the bedroom is a little different than talking dirty inside the bedroom. When you are talking dirty outside the bedroom, you need to be more subtle and less direct. This is so that you can build sexual tension with your man. So what kinds of phrases and lines should you use on your man when talking dirty outside the bedroom? Try these:
- "I wish there weren't so many people around. If they weren't here, you'd be in for a surprise."
- "If I didn't have to go right now, I would give you some special attention with my mouth."
- "I wish I didn't have to go because for some reason I'm really turned on right now."
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