Learning how to spice up your sex life is far easier than you think. It's not always a case of going to your local sex shop (or online) and buying whips, chains, handcuffs and all other sorts of BDSM equipment. You certainly can if that is what you're into, but it's not always necessary.
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There are actually a lot of simple things that you can try out with your man, that will work just as effectively without you needing to 'go off the deep end'. Let me show you 3 to get you started...
1. Get Your Positioning Right!
The easiest way to spice up your sex life for you and your man is to start by learning some new sexual positions. Giving this advice can sometimes be frustrating because when I say it, I often get asked, "What's the most exotic position that I can learn?" The truth is that there are many.
But just because a lovemaking position looks exotic or you need to be very flexible to perform it, it doesn't actually mean that it's more pleasurable. It can certainly be fun to try it out once or twice. You'll actually discover that there are lots of positions that are far more fun, pleasurable and better at spicing up your sex life that are very simple to perform, whether it's the Octopus position or the Mastery position.
Another thing that you'll quickly discover is that most positions are often slight variations on positions that you already know and love. For instance, the Coital Alignment Technique is just a slight variation of the regular Missionary position.
2. Find His Fetishes
Every single person on this earth has specific things that turn them on immensely, that may not be so exciting for other people. For some guys it could be getting a passionate blowjob (click here for a video tutorial with my most powerful blowjob tips, tactics & techniques) or it could be having their partner talk dirty to them (click here for the dirty talking video tutorial). It's completely natural and nothing to be ashamed about. These are your fetishes. Some may be mainstream, while others may be things only you have dreamed up.
Your man is exactly the same and finding out what his fetishes are and trying them out with him is one of the absolute best ways to spice up your sex life and make it more interesting for both of you. If you like this idea, then you may be excited to immediately find out what his fetishes are. My advice: slow down. These are usually very personal things that your man is probably very guarded about. So you are going to have to take a more subtle approach.
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