Learning how to spice up your sex life is far easier than you think. It's not always a case of going to your local sex shop (or online) and buying whips, chains, handcuffs and all other sorts of BDSM equipment. You certainly can if that is what you're into, but it's not always necessary.
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There are actually a lot of simple things that you can try out with your man, that will work just as effectively without you needing to 'go off the deep end'. Let me show you 3 to get you started...
1. Get Your Positioning Right!
The easiest way to spice up your sex life for you and your man is to start by learning some new sexual positions. Giving this advice can sometimes be frustrating because when I say it, I often get asked, "What's the most exotic position that I can learn?" The truth is that there are many.
But just because a lovemaking position looks exotic or you need to be very flexible to perform it, it doesn't actually mean that it's more pleasurable. It can certainly be fun to try it out once or twice. You'll actually discover that there are lots of positions that are far more fun, pleasurable and better at spicing up your sex life that are very simple to perform, whether it's the Octopus position or the Mastery position.
Another thing that you'll quickly discover is that most positions are often slight variations on positions that you already know and love. For instance, the Coital Alignment Technique is just a slight variation of the regular Missionary position.
2. Find His Fetishes
Every single person on this earth has specific things that turn them on immensely, that may not be so exciting for other people. For some guys it could be getting a passionate blowjob (click here for a video tutorial with my most powerful blowjob tips, tactics & techniques) or it could be having their partner talk dirty to them (click here for the dirty talking video tutorial). It's completely natural and nothing to be ashamed about. These are your fetishes. Some may be mainstream, while others may be things only you have dreamed up.
Your man is exactly the same and finding out what his fetishes are and trying them out with him is one of the absolute best ways to spice up your sex life and make it more interesting for both of you. If you like this idea, then you may be excited to immediately find out what his fetishes are. My advice: slow down. These are usually very personal things that your man is probably very guarded about. So you are going to have to take a more subtle approach.
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Start by asking him if there is anything that he'd like to try out in the bedroom. This is a nice, relaxed way to start exploring what he really gets turned on by. Then once he can see that you are comfortable exploring what he likes, he will start to really open up to you and talk to you about what really gets him off.
The main thing that you must do in this situation is be understanding. You don't necessarily need to try everything that he shares with you, but you do need to be understanding and non-judgemental.
Fetish Bonus: As well as learning about your man's fetishes to spice up your sex life, it can be just as fun to share yours with him too and then eventually act on them. It's also a great way to connect with your man as he is sharing his.
3. Quick Oral Tips
The last topic that I want to cover on how to spice up your sex life is oral sex. Men love getting blowjobs from their partner for a number of reasons. The main one is that it just feels fantastic!
Another strongly powerful reason that your man loves them is that most men like to be the 'dominant' & 'powerful' partner, while their girlfriend is the more submissive one. And giving your man a blowjob, especially while down on your knees is a very submissive act indeed.
While you will find far more blowjob tips in this section, I want to give you a few quick tips right now to get you started:
Wetter Is Better - Men much prefer getting wet sloppy blowjobs as opposed to dry and rough ones. So the next time you go down on him, don't worry if you are producing a lot of saliva. More than likely, your man will love it.
Do More Than Bob - The classic blow job technique is to take his penis into your mouth and simply bob your head up and down, with your lips moving over it. This is perfectly fine, but you should know that there is so much more that you can do to his penis. Don't forget that you can lick it, kiss it, tickle it with your tongue, suck it, massage it and more.
Get Around Town - What I mean when I say, 'Get Around Town' is that you should also try to pay attention to the areas around your man's penis. His balls, inner thighs and perineum are all super sensitive. So if you can stimulate these areas while giving him a blowjob at the same time, then your man is going to be a very happy camper indeed! Don't forget to check out the Bad Girl's Bible for my most 'out there' blowjob & sex tips.
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