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How To Finger Yourself To Orgasm: 5 Self Pleasure Tips

How To Finger Yourself To Orgasm: 5 Self Pleasure Tips
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These five tips will help you have the best orgasm of your life!

Learning how to finger yourself and masturbate properly can be quite difficult for many women. This is why I am going to show you exactly what to do to pleasure yourself all the way to orgasm. Every time. Just follow these very simple tips:

(P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques, you'll find them in this powerful video)

1. Relax. Here's Why...
The first problem that many women run into when learning how to pleasure themselves is that they are nervous, awkward or even freaked out about about the idea of fingering themselves. This is perfectly natural. But it's not going to help you have a good time.

In fact, many women get frustrated because they are putting pressure on themselves to reach orgasm instead of enjoying themselves. The funny thing about this is that it often then causes you to have serious trouble reaching orgasm! So the first thing you need to focus on is relaxing and getting comfortable.

Getting relaxed is often a very personal thing. For some people, getting relaxed means going for a jog or going to the gym before getting down to it. For others, they need to read a book, perhaps some erotica. So try to discover what realxes you the most. The next part of relaxing is making sure you are somewhere that you feel comfortable. This could be your bedroom, but many women find that they are even more comfortable in the shower or bath. Then once you are sufficiently comfortable, then it's time to get down to it!

2. Tease, Tease & Tease Some More
Once you are comfortable and relaxed, then it's time to start fingering yourself. The best way to make sure you reach orgasm every time is to start by teasing yourself. Think about it as fingering foreplay.

Start by gently stroking and massaging the most sensitive, erogenous areas of your body. These areas could be your neck, breasts, inner thighs and all around your vagina. Now, you may be eager to immediately get to business but don't give in yet! Instead, enjoy the feeling and notice the tension and desire slowly building up in your body. This tension and build up is exactly what's going to make your orgasm much more enjoyable for you. I even teach these powerful teasing techniques in this video tutorial on giving your man awesome oral sex.

3. Zone In On The Pleasure!
Now that you are sufficiently aroused, it's time to actually learn how to finger yourself. Start by lowering your hand downwards. You're not going to enter yourself just yet. Instead, you'll be very gently massaging your clitoris with your fingers.

  • Circular Motion — Some find that they enjoy a gentle circular motion over their clitoris the most, while others enjoy brushing all their fingers over and back on it. The key is doing a little experimentation to discover what you enjoy the most and focus on that. In other words, zone in of what feels most pleasurable. Rubbing your clitoris like this can be the all you need to orgasm but if you want to try other techniques, keep reading.
  • On The Side — Gently running your fingers up and down the sides of your vagina, over the inner and outer labia is also incredibly pleasurable, especially if you are using some lube. For some women, they can orgasm from this alone, but not everyone can. You may want to file this technique under 'fingering foreplay'.
  • Time To Enter — The next technique to use when learning how to finger yourself is entering your vagina with your finger. Before you do this though, make sure that your finger is sufficiently lubricated otherwise you risk hurting yourself. Enter slowly and as always, focus on what feels most pleasurable. If you find it incredibly uncomfortable, then stop! But if you find it enjoyable, then focus on maintaining and enhancing that enjoyable feeling. Do a little experimentation, by pressing and massaging the sides of your vagina as well bringing your finger in and out of your vagina.

4. Sometimes You Need To Push
As you use each of the techniques I have described to finger yourself, you will start to notice that the pleasure builds and builds. This 'building feeling' feels different to everyone. Some women report that they feel as if tension is building up inside them, while others report that feel they feel liking peeing (seriously)!

The point I'm trying to make is that this 'building feeling' is good and it's a sign that your body is enjoying it. So keep going and embrace it as you're fingering yourself. Eventually, you'll reach a point where the pressure of this feeling will reach a peak and you will orgasm. The specific techniques that you use to actually reach orgasm don't matter. What matters is that you enjoy yourself, even if you don't actually orgasm.

5. Keep Trying New Things
Now that you know how to finger yourself to orgasm, it's time to start learning more great ways to keep your sex life satisfying. That's why I have put together this detailed tutorial video that will teach you how to talk dirty to your man so that he keeps lusting after you. If you are more interested in something that's a little kinkier, then you'll find this instructional video where I show you exactly what to do to give your man awesome oral sex very helpful too. 

 

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