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How To Finger Yourself To Orgasm: 5 Self Pleasure Tips

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How To Finger Yourself To Orgasm: 5 Self Pleasure Tips
Make sure you're comfortable before you get busy!
These five tips will help you have the best orgasm of your life!

Learning how to finger yourself and masturbate properly can be quite difficult for many women. This is why I am going to show you exactly what to do to pleasure yourself all the way to orgasm. Every time. Just follow these very simple tips:

(P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques, you'll find them in this powerful video)

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1. Relax. Here's Why...
The first problem that many women run into when learning how to finger themselves is that they are nervous, awkward or even freaked out about about the idea of pleasuring themselves. This is perfectly natural. But it's not going to help you have a good time.

In fact, many women get frustrated because they are putting pressure on themselves to reach orgasm instead of enjoying themselves. The funny thing about this is that it often then causes you to have serious trouble reaching orgasm! So the first thing you need to focus on is relaxing and getting comfortable.

Getting relaxed is often a very personal thing. For some people, getting relaxed means going for a jog or going to the gym before getting down to it. For others, they need to read a book, perhaps some erotica. So try to discover what realxes you the most. The next part of relaxing is making sure you are somewhere that you feel comfortable. This could be your bedroom, but many women find that they are even more comfortable in the shower or bath. Then once you are sufficiently comfortable, then it's time to get down to it!

2. Tease, Tease & Tease Some More
Once you are comfortable and relaxed, then it's time to start fingering yourself. The best way to make sure you reach orgasm every time is to start by teasing yourself. Think about it as fingering foreplay.

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Start by gently stroking and massaging the most sensitive, erogenous areas of your body. These areas could be your neck, breasts, inner thighs and all around your vagina. Now, you may be eager to immediately get to business but don't give in yet! Instead, enjoy the feeling and notice the tension and desire slowly building up in your body. This tension and build up is exactly what's going to make your orgasm much more enjoyable for you. I even teach these powerful teasing techniques in this video tutorial on giving your man an awesome blow job.

3. Zone In On The Pleasure!
Now that you are sufficiently aroused, it's time to actually learn how to finger yourself. Start by lowering your hand down towards your vagina. You're not going to enter yourself just yet. Instead, you'll be very gently massaging your clitoris with your fingers.

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