Great lovemaking starts with great foreplay. So here are a number of really awesome foreplay ideas that you should try to incorporate into your love life. While you may have heard of some before, you'll find that others are new and very inspiring.
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Quick Tip: You don't need to use long drawn out foreplay on your man every single time you have sex...but if you do have a good deal of free time together, then it's going to make sex way hotter and fun for both of you if you do draw it out. Now onto the specific foreplay ideas to use on your man...
Teasing your man is a really fun but powerful foreplay idea. I'm not talking about teasing your man in a way that makes fun of him. I'm talking about teasing him on what he is about to experience. In other words I'm talking about the type of teasing where you are controlling the pace of what's happening with your man. This will have him waiting and eagerly anticipating what's about to come next.
So what are some good ways to tease your man?
Well you can start as early as possible. So if you are not planning on getting together until the evening, then try starting early in the morning with a text or a phone call. It doesn't need to be super dirty or naughty, something as simple as, 'Can't wait to see you later. x' works great. Although if you like you can be a bit naughtier and send him something like this, 'I can't wait until work finishes, so I can rock your world.' Sending something like the last message is really going to turn him on.
Another great way to tease your man is when you are actually together but can't get intimate, like when you are in a restaurant or you are both in a bar together. Start to tell him what you plan to do to him later. You could say something like this,
'I can't wait till we're alone. I'm going to rip your clothes off and have my way with you!'
Saying something like this to your man is going to have him trembling with anticipation. Don't be surprised to see him readjusting himself after you say something like this! Pro Tip: Being really descriptive makes this even hotter!
A final way to tease him is to explain in detail exactly how you are going to do something like giving him oral sex later. If you are stuck for ideas, then check out this incredibly detailed instructional video on giving your man a great bj.
2. The Truth About Kissing
As you get older, you might start to see kissing your man as something tame and even a bit lame as you are getting sexual with him. What you'll find is that it is tame if you kiss him non-stop and all-the-time.
But if you kiss your man more sparingly and really kiss him with passion when you do kiss, then it's going to be a lot hotter and a much bigger turn on for him, especially when you take control of kissing him.
So the next time when you are starting physical foreplay with your man, don't wait for him to start kissing you, take a little control, grab him and kiss him with passion. You'll be surprised to see just how much this foreplay idea turns your man on.
3. Compliment Your Man
Your man may pretend to be 'all man', a guy who is tough and never needs others to make him feel good about himself. Your boyfriend certainly may be 'all man', but even if he doesn't say it, he'll still really appreciate getting genuine compliments from you.
Complimenting your man is a great way to both show him how much you care about him as well as massaging his ego. Massaging your man's ego is an awesome way to turn him on in a way that isn't necessarily physical. There are just 2 rules that you need to know when complimenting him.
- Be genuine. Don't tell him things you don't really believe yourself.
- Don't go overboard. There is no need to compliment him 50 times a day. A few times a week is perfect.
4. Play Fighting
Play fighting with your man is one of the weirder foreplay ideas that I recommend. It's a great way to start getting physical with him in a fun way. Play fighting with your man is just like when you joked around with friends when you were a kid. It's nothing serious, just a bit of fun.
The only hard thing about play fighting with your man is starting it in a way that's natural. It's easiest when you're both in bed together. The key is joking around with your man first. Pretend to misinterpret something he said and give him a flirty push away or a gentle punch.
Joke with him that you think you're stronger. Ask him in a flirty way if he thinks he's stronger than you and then ask him to prove he is. Again the whole purpose of all of this is to start play fighting with him.
There is something that many couples find very erotically charged about play fighting with each other. For many it's like a gentle form of dominance and submission.
Using these 4 simple foreplay ideas is going to make your love life a whole lot more interesting. If you want to learn more awesome ways to please your man in bed, like how to give him perfect oral sex, then you may want to take a look at the powerful techniques in this video tutorial on giving a great bj. However, if you are more interested in learning how to talk dirty to your man to build sexual tension and turn him on, then you will find this instructional presentation even better!
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