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If Your Guy Does This ONE Thing, He's 100% In It For The Long Haul

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Are you a "for now" or a "forever"?

After months of dating, you're finally official. You have a boyfriend and you're in love. Colors are brighter, food tastes better, and love songs were written about you.

 


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Congrats! You've gotten through the easy part.

 

On paper he's committed to you right now, but how do you truly know if he's committed to a future with you?

 

Men and women go into commitment differently. Women feel. Men choose.

Before feeling love, women won't enter a commitment if they feel like it won't last. If they've already fallen in love with a man, then they don't have much of a choice. They feel like they need to be with him—even if they know it's not the right thing.

Men can choose to love quicker. They can choose to commit to having fun and enter a relationship knowing that there's an end date. Since it's a choice, they can choose to change their mind, whether it's to a longer commitment or to end things.

 

How do you know if he's committed to your future? How do you know if he's chosen you as the one?

 

When a man chooses you as the one, he will take responsibility for you. He will want to take care of you and support you. The decisions he makes for his career and life will now be centered around that responsibility and your future together.


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Is he suddenly more stressed about money, even though his circumstances have not changed? Is he looking to change jobs or his career? Is he spending more time working?

While most would take these as negative signs, they're actually positive ones. He feels responsible and he's taking action to live up to the expectations he's created for himself in regards to taking care of you and your future family.

 

If a man has taken responsibility for you, then that's when you know he's truly committed.


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Do you keep dating the same type of man with no success? Do you know the signs that make a man Relationship Material? Want to stop wasting valuable time with a man who isn't ready for commitment? Download my FREE eBook Is He Relationship Material? Signs To Look For Before You Commit?

This article was originally published at LoveLifeTBD.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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