Let's face it: condoms are not the best part of sex. But for anyone who wants to prevent pregnancy and infections, they are the best way to protect yourself. When used correctly and consistently, condoms are 98% effective. Remember, they don't protect you against all infections, so always talk to your partner about their sexual history and when in doubt, get tested together.
Condoms don't have to ruin the mood. Think of them as your protective gear that allows you to have more fun with less worry. Just like football players strap on their protective pads so they can play harder, condoms allow you to fully enjoy sex and stay safe at the same time. Knowing how to put on a condom without breaking the flow of your foreplay is an essential skill to master.
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How To Choose The Right Condom
Before you can learn how to put on a condom, learn how to choose the right condom. Before learning how to put on a condom in the heat of the moment, every guy should practice on his own until he is comfortable putting one on. That way, he'll be more relaxed when putting on a condom with an aroused partner in bed with him.
The first step of learning how to put on a condom is choosing the right condom for your unique body. Every guy should try on lots of different ones to find the brand and specific type that fit him best. Condoms range wildly in size, length, girth and shape. Many sex toy stores sell condom samplers so you can buy a variety and try them all. This isn't the time to be in denial about your penis size: a too big condom (or a too small one!) will not only compromise the effectiveness, but also won't feel as good for either partner! Aim for a condom that fits snugly, without excess baggage around any part of the shaft.
Skip the spermicide! Spermicide is a harsh chemical that can irritate the sensitive vaginal walls, creating micro-abrasions that can actually increase the risk for infection and make sex really uncomfortable. Many women are allergic to spermicides so best to skip this part.
You can buy pre-lubricated condoms, but you'll want to use your own lubricant in addition. Grab a bottle of organic, all natural lubricant. Most lubes contain toxic chemicals that you don't want anywhere near your most sensitive parts. If your lube contains chemicals with long words you can't pronounce, it probably isn't good for your body. Many lubes also contain glycerin, a sweetener that can lead to nasty yeast infections. Take good care of your sexual system by choosing a great lube. You and your partner will really appreciate it! Choose an organic brand like Good Clean Love and feel good knowing you are using a product that is good for your body, inside and out!
How To Put On A Condom
First, know that the first few times you put on a condom may be awkward. Like any skill, the more you practice, the easier it will get! So as you learn how to put on a condom, keep a sense of humor and know it will get easier over time.
Don't rush to put the condom on! You'll want to put it on a fully erect penis, before the penis comes in contact with any part of the vulva. Enjoy lots of foreplay first, focusing on full body touch and building up female arousal. Remember the Pleasure Mechanics Golden Rule: Female Orgasm Before Intercourse! Intercourse feels SO much better once the woman is fully aroused, so lavish her with attention before putting on a condom. Most women have orgasms through clitoral stimulation using hands and mouth, so focus on her pleasure until she is more than ready to have sex.
When you are ready to put on a condom, don't worry about breaking the mood. If you have built up enough arousal, the mood won't be fragile! Take your time, relax, stay connected to your lover and get ready for the next round of pleasure. Learn how to put on a condom while maintaining your connection. Talk to her, saying things like "I'm so excited to be inside you" or "You look beautiful right now" to keep both of you excited and ready as you take your time putting on the condom correctly.
Make sure to check the expiration date! Clear out your stash once in awhile and get rid of any condoms that are expired or if the package looks worn or torn. Double check the expiration date right before you use each condom to be sure.
Open the package and inspect the condom. Don't tear open the package with your teeth, as you may rip the condom. Use your fingers and gently open the package. Make sure you can't see any flaws or holes. The condom should be soft and flexible. If it feels weird in any way, such as sticky, brittle or stiff, throw it away and use a new condom.
Next, identify the rolled edge and make sure that rolled edge is on the outside of the condom, with the tip of the condom facing up. Grab your organic lube and add a drop or two on the inside tip of the condom. This lube will help the condom slip around the sensitive head of the penis, adding more pleasurable sensation for him. If he is uncircumcised, make sure the foreskin is totally pulled back before putting on a condom. Don't rush this process! Follow his lead, he'll know how to handle his sensitive foreskin and you can learn over time!
Place the rolled up condom over the head of the penis, and then pinch the air out of the puckered tip of the condom. The is important to minimize air trapped in the head of the condom, which will minimize the risk of breakage and also increase his pleasure! Keep his arousal going by gently squeezing the head of his penis as you hold the condom in place. With your other hand, gently roll the condom down over the shaft, making sure it extends all the way down to the base of the penis.
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Using pleasurable handjob techniques, smooth out the condom and make sure there are no air bubbles along the shaft. Make this an arousing part of the process — using your handjob skills can make putting on the condom part of building his arousal, rather than an annoying interruption in your lovemaking. Apply a bit more of your organic lube to the outside of the condom, to add extra glide during penetration. Again, make this part of the fun. Use enough pressure that he can feel your touch through the condom. Keep Reading...
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