Here is your ultimate game plan for your sexiest weekend yet, from the friendly sex experts at PleasureMechanics.com. Get ready to float into work on Monday, still radiating from your hot sex afterglow! This guide assumes that you have the weekend to yourself. If you have kids, call in your favors and get a friend or relative to take over for the weekend. Shed the guilt — you'll be a better parent if you spend this weekend fueling up with erotic energy that will last for weeks to come.
You'll start with pampering and preparation, go on an old-school date on Friday night, spend Saturday immersed in erotic pleasure and then enjoy a full day of afterglow on Sunday! Ready? Let's go!
Hot Sex Plan Step 1: Choose Your Location
Hot sex requires a habitat to thrive. If you are going to be staying at home, clean the house ahead of time and get rid of distractions: it is hard to get aroused with a pile of dirty laundry in the corner. If you can afford it, hire a housecleaner to come in on Friday morning so you can start your weekend in a sparkling clean house. Or, consider booking a hotel room for the weekend. Book online for great rates and know you are investing in your relationship and wellbeing. A clean hotel room, free of reminders of your everyday life, can be a powerful aphrodisiac.
Hot Sex Plan Step 2: Turn Off Technology
Nothing kills your libido like getting emails from work. If you can, leave your mobile packed away for the weekend. If you want to use your device for streaming music, finding restaurants and texting with your babysitter, than take a vow not to check your email. Trust us, the world will not fall apart around you and everything will be waiting for you on Sunday evening, and no one will fault you for unplugging for 48 hours!
Hot Sex Plan Step 3: Schedule A Date
Think back to the early days of your relationship. You probably set dates in advance, spent time getting yourself ready, built up anticipation and then showed up ready to shine. Time to bring the thrill of dating back into your relationship. Make a date for Friday night. Choose a new restaurant that you've always wanted to try, a gallery opening in a nearby town, take a dance class or visit a museum offering an evening reception. Make sure it is a date where your attention is on one another: no movies, plays or concerts!
Hot Sex Plan Step 4: Prepare Yourself For Romance
On Friday evening, spend time by yourself getting ready for your date. Go to the gym, get your hair done, take an extra long shower; do whatever makes you feel pampered and sexy. While you are in the shower or relaxing, spend some time fantasizing about your upcoming weekend. What do YOU want to experience? What is your body hungry for?
Hot Sex Plan Step 5: Dine and Discuss
On your Friday night date, spend time catching up with one another and sharing highlights from your week. Off limits: complaining about work, discussing stressful issues, or worrying about the future. Focus on subjects that make you feel good, hopeful and close to one another. After you have decompressed a bit, use the following questions to start a conversation about what you want to share over the weekend. Dare to be honest and specific: your weekend of hot sex is on the line!
- We have the weekend all to ourselves: what one thing would be the most satisfying for you?
- Is there any way I can pamper you or take care of you this weekend?
- Is there something specific you want to experience?
Try to come up with a short list of a few activities you both want to explore. Include in and out of bedroom experiences: One list might include: a long foot massage, a steak dinner, oral sex, bathing one another, long slow sex. Another couple might come up with: full body massage, yoga, light bondage, erotic spanking and queening. Dare to ask for specifically what you want — those who ask for what they want are much more likely to get it!
Hot Sex Plan Step 6: Go To Bed Wanting More
Friday night is all about going on a date. Go to bed full of anticipation and desire for your weekend together. Spend time kissing, touching and cuddling — but don't have sex! Try to get to sleep early so you wake up refreshed and full of energy.
Hot Sex Plan Step 7: Sultry Saturday
Saturday will be your main event. Allow yourselves to sleep in, and then have a delicious breakfast. Go for a walk together to help digest, then head back to the bedroom. Think of the day as one long marathon sex event, and pace yourself accordingly. Remember that there can be several climactic peaks of erotic energy over the course of the day.
Take turns giving and receiving. This allows you both to fully relax and savor receiving pleasure, while the other fully focuses on giving. Choose who wants to receive first: then allow yourself to go fully into the roles of giver and receiver. The giver is in charge of the music, bringing water and snacks, and focusing fully on lavishing the receiver with as much pleasure as they can handle. No worries: you’ll switch roles later on in the day! Keep reading...
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