Most women want more foreplay before we can enjoy the pleasures of intercourse. Foreplay is essential to build arousal before penetration of any kind, and most of us can't get enough. Here are five ideas to get more foreplay every time you make love:
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1. Foreplay all day. Foreplay can start long before you hit the sheets. Let your erotic tension build all day by allowing yourself to think about sex. Allow your thoughts to wander and daydream vividly about what you want to experience when you get together with your lover. The more detail you bring to your fantasies, the better. Your mind will start to get your body on board and you may find yourself more aroused when you finally see your lover.
By allowing the foreplay to start in your own imagination, you'll not only prime your body but give yourself the chance to get clear about what exactly you are craving. Do you want tender, gentle lovemaking? Or do you want to be roughed up and tossed around tonight? Let your erotic imagination lead the way! Don't know what you really want in bed? Check out The Fantasy Method for an interactive guide into your erotic imagination!
2. Enjoy a massage as foreplay. It can be hard to transition from a busy day to feeling like a sex goddess. If you need to de-stress and get in the zone, try massage. Even five minutes of massage can flip your switch from stress to relaxation, bring your attention to the sensation in your body and reconnect with your lover.
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3. Take control in bed. If your lover is always in a rush to get to intercourse, slow things down by taking control. Ask your lover to relax on the bed and then take your time lavishing his body with slow touch. Every time your lover tries to touch you, lightly slap their hand away and let them know that you are in control for the moment.
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Try flipping your lover over so they are face down and kiss and nibble their shoulders and neck. Let them feel your body pressing into theirs, your weight pinning them down. Slowly build the anticipation and only allow your lover to touch you when his desire has become urgent, throbbing and immediate. Keep reading ...
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