3 Ways Kinky Sex Is Like Spicy Food

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3 Ways Kinky Sex Is Like Spicy Food
Ready to turn up the sexual heat?

50 Shades of Grey has given millions of people permission to begin exploring the kinkier side of sex. Attendance at fetish clubs and in online kinky communities are at an all-time high, and it is no longer taboo to admit your interest in exploring rough sex and role playing. As more and more people begin sampling from the banquet of BDSM and kink, it is important to remember that there is a wide spectrum of intensity to explore.

Kinky sex is a lot like spicy food: most of us love a little heat now and then, but only a few people want to bite into a habanero everyday. Here are three ways kinky sex is a lot like spicy food, an invitation to find your own personal tastes and preferences in the spectrum of spice available to you!

1. From mild to wild. Even those of us that love spicy food don't use the same amount of hot sauce every time we eat. There are times when you want a dish to be crazy hot, just on the edge of overwhelm. Other times, a tiny bit of heat is just right.

When you start exploring kinky sex you may be concerned that you'll never be able to go back to simple, old fashioned lovemaking. But just like you get to choose the heat in each dish you prepare, the level of roughness and intensity in each sexual episode is up to you. Sometimes you'll want simple sex. Sometimes you will want to amp up the intensity.

Your erotic life can become just as creative as you wish, and it is up to you to find your favorite combinations of erotic flavors to satisfy your unique desires. There is room for the whole range — from simple, unadorned vanilla to eye-popping spice — and you don't have to give anything up to explore new flavors.

2. 3000 shades of heat. There are over three thousand kinds of chili peppers used around the world to add heat and flavor to our food. Likewise, there is a vast spectrum of kinky sex acts that can add excitement to your sex life. You get to explore and choose your favorites, and being specific matters.

Some of us love the tangy burn of a jalapeño but shy away from the flagrant heat of a scotch bonnet pepper. I love spicy chocolate, but you may only like heat in your savory dishes. When you first begin exploring kinky sex, it can be overwhelming to think about including everything from spanking to bondage, from anal play to role play. The good news? You don't have to enjoy everything to discover new ways to express your erotic creature. Keep reading ...

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