What Your Woman Secretly Wants In Bed

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21 Days To An Even Better Sex Life — Challenge #3: Be the kind of guy she craves.

Sexual satisfaction is constantly addressed by magazines and sex columns in an attempt to answer the elusive question, "What do women want in bed?" So what does your woman really want in bed? Besides deep intimacy, romance, and maybe an exciting new position to try, what she truly desires is a connection with you — her man.

Step 1: Be Confident

When a woman is quiet or seems dissatisfied, a man often looks to himself, wondering if he's lacking technique or not doing enough to please his partner. A man may expect to hear those moans of passion and see his woman lose herself. If this level of intensity is missing, he may wonder, what's wrong?

The truth about what women want in bed lies less in technique and more in attitude. She craves your confidence. A woman doesn't expect a man to be a mind reader, but rather to be curious bout every detail of her body and eager to explore it. She wants a take-charge kind of guy who's neither shy nor timid about his need to completely ravage every bit of her.

As sex educators, we teach women the very same thing. We encourage women to take charge of their sex lives by communicating their wants and needs to their partners. Through communication, we remind them, they're much more likely to get their needs met. If a woman is more confident, the theory holds, he's likely to feed off of her confidence.

That said, women do want to be the feminine vixen, true to their biology and the root carnal force. In the bedroom, all humans crave and need to be true to their gender roles, whatever they may be. And these men in the movies are confident in their own sexuality and completely focused on the woman and the moment. These men are present and ready to devour every inch of her. Keep reading...

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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

She is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

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