How often have you heard a woman (you?) state, with a sigh, that all the good men are taken?
It’s been my observation that the women who believe that are the only ones who are experiencing that…so what’s going on here?
If you're attracting less than great men into your life, it's very likely that it’s got more to do with you than them.
Here are four reasons why that may be true for you.
1. You Get What You Expect
Finish this sentence: Men are (fill in the blank.) Just say or write everything that goes through your mind.
If things like “men are lazy and selfish”, or “men can't be trusted”, or ‘men only want younger, model- type women”, etc., are the types of thoughts you had, I’d bet that the type of men you’ve been attracting pretty much match what you’ve been expecting.
The good news? You know how to manifesting what you expect! Your job now is to change what you expect, so you can change what you get.
2. You’re Focusing on the Wrong Stuff
Do you and your friends complain about the men you know, whether you're dating them or know them in other ways? Do you and your friends and colleagues send and receive male bashing jokes? Do you watch TV shows that bash men and portray them as useless and stupid? (And those awful portrayals of men are everywhere!)
All of these things focus your attention on what you don't want in your ideal mate. You may have already come across this bit of wisdom somewhere else in your life: you tend to get what you focus on.
3. You’re Not Clear About What You Want
Are you clear about your values, your life vision, and what you want from a lifetime partner? If you haven't taken the time to do the inner work to figure out what you truly want and need, you'll find yourself settling for something else.
“If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” – Lewis Carroll
4. You’re Filling a Void
Regardless of the messages in all the romance novels and movies out there, a man cannot “complete you” or fill a void in you. If you don't feel whole, you'll attract men who don't feel whole.
It’s not always easy to tell with men; their lack of wholeness may not look like it does for you (for instance, you may come across as though you don’t need anything, and he may bend over backwards to make you happy…two sides of the same coin).
Put this saying somewhere that you can find again (and again); it’s so important to keep in mind:
“We attract who we are, not who we want. “
If you want to learn where you are in your life, take a good look at who you’ve attracted; your mirror is there.
My strong recommendation is that you accept what you see as the truth right now, and know that from that place you’ll be able to do something about it. You can’t change what you’re not aware of. Keep in mind the old and very powerful saying:
“The truth shall set you free.”