The time before, during and after a break is excruciating. Your mind dwells constantly on your ex, keeping you locked into feelings of sadness, despair and anger. Replaying the series of events keeps you in the past and unable to see a bright future. Break the cycle of replay by becoming aware of the moment you start thinking about your ex.
Awareness brings you to the present moment where you'll notice that you're actually okay. This is where your mind opens up to the possibility that there are lessons to be learned. Lessons that will help you love better and differently. In my experience, these 7 lessons will help you move forward with more ease. And when you're ready, they’ll help you create the future you desire.
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Lesson #1: Accept "What Is"
Trying to figure out what went wrong and ruminating over the "why", "what" and "how" is futile when you're emotionally broken. What you resist, persists, so accept "what is", knowing that the answers will reveal themselves in time, when you've healed and are emotionally healthy. When the answers are revealed, you'll know what you need to do.
Lesson #2: Settle for More
Settling for less than you deserve will bring you unfulfilling relationships. You're a fabulous person who has a great deal to offer the right partner. Surround yourself with positive and loving people. Settling for more only comes from a healthy foundation of thoughts. Build a network of supportive and healthy thoughts. Your thoughts determine your feelings which determine your behavior and the type of action you take.
Lesson #3: Love Yourself First
Seeking love, affection and approval from others keeps you from knowing and loving yourself. Love, value and respect yourself first, and you'll attract a much higher quality partner who treats you well, whose actions match his words, who can be trusted, etc. Complete yourself first by improving your own relationship challenges (i.e. speaking your voice, trusting your partner, etc.) so that when you're ready for love, you'll attract a whole partner, rather than someone who is lacking in areas that matter.
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