8 Signs You Aren't Ready For A Relationship

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8 Signs You Aren't Ready For A Relationship [EXPERT]
Just because you want a relationship doesn't mean you're ready for one.

I know what you're thinking right now. "Of course, I'm ready for a relationship. It's what I've been waiting so long for! I just need to know how I can get one started!" How Do You Know If He's "The One"

Well, I'm certainly not arguing that you want a real relationship. I'm asking if you're ready for a real relationship. That one's tough to answer, because it entails really looking at yourself and your beliefs, attitudes and behaviors in a real, open, and honest way. And that's never easy.

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One thing I can tell you is that I've been there. I've been in that spot where all I could think about was how I so wanted a real relationship, with all of the affection, understanding, support and love that comes with it. And that's when I asked myself this very same question and I realized that I didn't like the answer. I had some major changing to do. So how do you know if you're ready for a relationship before you start one with either the wrong guy or Mr. Right at the wrong time? "He'd Be Great, If Only..."

If you're showing any of these warning signs, it means you're not ready for a relationship and you have some work to do on yourself before you can be in a healthy, happy relationship with someone else:

1. Your compass is not pointing north. Your great guy compass is off. It's consistently pointing you to the wrong type of guy. This typically happens because you're subconsciously trying to sabotage the relationship from the beginning by choosing a guy who's not actually relationship material.

Your friends and family have warned you that he's a player, or a loser, or a (enter your favorite derogatory term for a bad boyfriend here) but you've written them off, believing that you're going to be the one woman that can change him into the perfect partner. No, the truth is that inside you know you won't change him, and that's actually fine with you because you subconsciously fear a deep relationship.

2. You need a man to feel happy. You feel miserable unless you're coupled up. If you get an invite to a party or event, and you don't have a man to bring, then you're likely to make up an excuse, send your regrets, pass up the night out and sit at home feeling sorry for yourself because you are "oh so alone." Planting The Seeds Of Love

Then, you spend the entire night Googling "best places to meet men" and reading articles about what men find attractive instead of doing something that would make you happy (like going to the party you were invited to.) The truth is that if you did meet a great guy while in this mindset, you'd hold on so tight so quickly that you'd most likely strangle the relationship anyway. Find what makes you happy before you're in a relationship, then find someone to share that happiness with.

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Jane Garapick

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Jane Garapick knows firsthand what it’s like to have a broken heart, a broken dream, and a broken you. She writes about adventures on the rocky road to finding Mr. Right at her website www.gettingtotruelove.com.
 

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