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3 BIG Things That Make A Man TRULY Ready To Marry You

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3 Things Men Need Before They're Ready For Marriage
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Wondering what makes a man commit to marriage? Watch out for these signs.

Have you ever wondered why the man with whom you had a great relationship didn't marry you, only to find out later that he married his next girlfriend

Welcome to the world of men!

It's not fun to find that out. The difference between men and women is that men don't fall in love... they decide to love and become ready for marriage based on these 3 factors:

1. The right timing.


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You know they say timing is everything. Well, that's an understatement for men. Timing is the only thing to men. You may say, "I get it but what does timing mean to a man?"

Real men base their decisions on facts, not feelings. They need to know their goals are on track. Men need accomplishment and cannot sleep at night if they don't know where they're going.

It's a simple equation. Once they know where they're going, they decide whom they're going with. There is no other way and this can save you a lot of heartache because it's not about you. This leads to factor number 2, which is about you.

2. The knowledge that he can give you a better life


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Real men ask themselves this one simple question when they meet you: "How can I make her life better than it is now?"

(Boys, by the way, do not ask this question and will waste your time and then tell you later, they're not ready for a relationship.)

If the answer is no, then there's no deal. Men know that a woman can only be in love with a man she looks up to. These men won't marry until they are in a position to do so. They have to be able to make your life better.

Boys will just let you take care of them. Watch Chemistry To Commitment to fully understand a man's calculator.

3. Their maturity level


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This is the most frustrating factor because men can go years or decades without it, then suddenly have it. Which explains their sudden decisions when they are ready. Of course, it's not a complete mystery.

Look at his family life. Are his parents together? What's his relationship to his mom? It's a sad but true fact that people raised in single parent homes don't know how to marry. They've been taught to go it alone.

Fortunately, we are not set in stone. However please be aware that uphill battles are not a lot of fun. The price of maturity is experience, which is why timing is so important. It's easy to tell what makes a man marry you.

It's timing, a better life and maturity. Read A Life Of Love and let me know how it goes.

James Allen Hanrahan is a dating relationship coach in Los Angeles. Get his FREE Chemistry to Commitment formula.

This article was originally published at jamesallenhanrahan.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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