Why Making Your Man Wait For Sex Will NOT Make Him Commit To You

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Why Mr. Right Won't Wait For Sex
Self, Sex

Hate to break it to you.

You meet a man you're interested in dating, and in your casual conversation you mention you're celibate. Are you out of your mind?! If you're celibate, keep it a secret. There's no need to announce it; it's the last thing that a man wants to hear.

While your objective is to make sure the man truly likes you and gets to know you before you give up the goodies, be realistic. How long do you think a man is going to hold out without having sex? Most men won't wait more than 90 days.

Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you're using your body instead of your brain as a bargaining tool.

Consider this: he may be sexually attracted to you. However, he may continue to date you while seeing someone else on the side. So don't allow your fear of having sex to hold you or him captive. After all, life is short. Live and love. Tomorrow isn't promised.

It shouldn't take you more than 90 days to figure whether you want to have sex or not. You may think you're pretty great, but reality is reality, so stay within the circle of reason. It's a very competitive world out there.

Ask the appropriate questions, get to know him and then make a decision. Be very considerate of his time and what you're asking him to do. Remember that what you're asking is a stretch with an unknown destination date.

Your belief that you have an amazing body and are great in bed has nothing to do with finding and keeping the man of your dreams.

You may temporarily attract a man with your sexual prowess, but it isn't the act itself that makes sex great; it's intellect and love combined with the act, along with a few other things. If there's nothing inside of you, you can make a man wait for a year and still get the same failed results.

Don't rush, but do be realistic. It's a super sexy world out there and you should achieve your goal of finding and keeping a man who's truly interested in you. Just don't price yourself out of the market.

Does he take you out to dinner, or do you each pay your own way? If you're sexually celibate, you should also be celibate with your pocketbook. When you pay your own way, your objective will be clear and he will not feel used if things don't work out.

Please understand how a man thinks. His ultimate goal is to gain carnal knowledge of you. You can't hide your true emotions when you're having sex. It must be the real you!

If you ever get confused, ask yourself: Would you date a celibate man? Would you want to pick him up, take him out on dates, buy him dinner, spend your hard-earned money and not even get a kiss (much less an orgasm)? What are you going to do? After all, as the old saying goes, if you don't use it, you lose it.

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