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Single & Celibate? Why Mr. Right Won't Wait For Sex

By How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams.com. Posted on May 31st 2012.

Making him wait won't always make him commit.

If you are celibate, keep it a secret. There is no need to announce it. It is the last thing that a man wants to hear.

You meet a man you are interested in dating. Next, in your casual conversation you mention you are celibate. Are you out of your mind?

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While your objective is to make sure the man truly likes you and gets to know you before you give up the goodies, be realistic. How long do you think a man is going to hold out without having sex? Most men won't wait more than 90 days.

Your decision to remain celibate is based on your own, personal, selfish desire to meet the man of your dreams and avoid getting hurt. You want the rewards of a relationship without the collateral damage, and you are using your body — instead of your brain — as a bargaining tool. How He Knows She's 'The One'

Consider this: he may be sexually attracted to you. However, he may continue to date you while seeing someone else on the side. So, don't allow your fear of having sex to hold you — or him — captive. After all, life is short. Live and love. Tomorrow is not promised.

It should not take you more than 90 days to figure whether you want to have sex or not. You may think you are the bomb-dot-com, but reality is reality, so stay within the circle of reason. It's a very competitive world out there.

Ask the appropriate questions, get to know him and then make a decision. Be very considerate of his time and what you are asking him to do. Remember that what you're asking is a stretch with an unknown destination date. Tease & Please: 7 Lessons You Can Learn From Strippers

Your belief that you have an amazing body and that you are great in bed has nothing to do with finding and keeping the man of your dreams. You may temporarily attract a man with your sexual prowess, but it is not the act itself that makes sex great; it's intellect and love combined with the act, along with a few other things. If there is nothing inside of you, you can make a man wait for a year and still get the same, failed results.

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Don't rush, but do be realistic. It's a super sexy world out there and you should achieve your goal of finding and keeping a man who is truly interested in you. Just don't price yourself out of the market.

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