You Cheated - She Found Out - Now What Do You Do?

By

You Cheated - She Found Out - Now What Do You Do?
Cheating happens for many reasons. But the pain and devastation is often quite similar.

You cheated and she discovered the truth. What do you do now?

All those little white lies and bigger and bigger lies had you tied up in knots. You got yourself into a situation which felt great at first but started to eat away at you. The other woman seemed so appealing, so exciting, so understanding and so different from your wife. This other woman played up to you, flattered your faltering ego, and provided the hot sex you had been craving but not receiving at home. You thought you were so cool, that you could have your cake and eat it too. You thought you had covered your tracks so well and that your wife would never find out. And you even rationalized that if she did know, she loves you so much she would get angry for awhile and then just easily forgive and forget.

What a shock it must have been for you to discover that your wife is smarter than you thought, more sensitive than you imagined and capable of a rage and distance you never thought possible. Suddenly, your wife has come out of hiding and revealed to you the passionate and emotional woman that you didn't know was there. And just when you begin to feel that passion return toward your wife, she is half out the door or sending you flying with your suitcase in hand.

How do you get your wife back after you have committed the cardinal sin of cheating? What can you possibly say or do to gain back the love and trust and puppy eyed adoration of this woman whose hand you took in marriage? What would it take for her to be able to re-establish a sense that she is okay, that she is a beautiful, sexy and desirable woman and that you will love and cherish her for the rest of your life?

If you chose to have an affair with another woman because your marriage had become boring, uninteresting and monotonous, then perhaps you have chosen the right path. Because of this one action, whether your infidelity happened only one night or over a series of months or years, you have created a situation in which your marriage will no longer be monotonous and dull.

If your wife does not immediately throw you out of the house or insist that you pack up and leave, then you will probably be experiencing a living nightmare for the next few weeks, months or even years. Sometimes the painful war-like connection remains indefinitely with nobody actually filing for divorce. Sometimes the jealousy and rage seems to peak and fall, always lurking in the background about to explode.

So, what can a reasonable man do once he has crossed the line of infidelity, his wife has discovered the truth, and he cannot turn back the clock? Here are the steps that are required without any guarantee of positive results.

Keep reading...

More Juicy Content From YourTango:
10 Signs That Your Husband Is Cheating [EXPERT]
Prevent Your Man From Cheating: 7 Fool-Proof Tips  [EXPERT]
YourTango’s Best Breakup And Divorce Advice

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Dr. Erica Goodstone

Author

I have the unique habit of caring about you and seeing your greatness when you may temporarily have blinders on. I will lovingly nudge you into a state of self-acceptance, self-appreciation and receptivity to the love of others.

My life's work is to help you create and allow healing and love in your life and all your relationships. You create healing in your body by removing impediments to your natural immune system functions. You create love in your relationships by accepting and appreciating the unique gifts that each and every person has to offer, and that includes YOU.

Find a Kindle Book about love, touch, healing, sexuality, spiritual reawakening and more.

Discover the 9 Love Secrets in Dr. Erica's interview by David Riklan from SelfGrowth.com

Schedule a private coaching or counseling session: DrEricaWellness.com

Hire Dr. Erica to speak at your next event:  DrEricaGoodstone.com

Visit my Blog: CreateHealingAndLoveNow.com/blog

Like my Facebook Page: HealingThroughLove

Get your FREE RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS REPORT:DrEricaWellness.com


 

Location: Boca Raton, FL
Credentials: LMFT, LMHC, LPC, MA, MFT, NCC, Other, PhD
Other Articles/News by Dr. Erica Goodstone:

Sex and Love Are Not New This Valentine's Day

By

Sorry to disappoint you, but love is not new.  You did not invent sex and you are not the first person to experience love or to discover a certain sexual position or a specific way to please your partner.  Believe it or not, whatever you can imagine, conceive, or indulge in, you are not the first person to do this. I had the pleasure of being on a ... Read more

Give The Gift Of Love

By

"LOVE" is the most precious gift we can give to anyone at any time.  Far more valuable than the most expensive diamond, the most exotic vacation, the most luxurious home or the most sporty and powerful automobile.  With love as the basis, of couse, all of these gifts would probably be most welcome.  But without love as the foundation, ... Read more

On the 12th Day of Loving

By

Are you in a relationship where you feel an accumulation of little hurts, not one big hurt but many little ones?  Notice how the little hurts build slowly.  Relationship intimacy builds with every caring, sensitive and open communication.  And it is quite fragile, requiring consistent nurturing.   On the 1st day of loving my true ... Read more

See More

GET MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS IN YOUR INBOX!

Sign up for our daily email and get the stories everyone is talking about.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB