11 Wacky Signs Your Sex Life Is Totally Normal

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Signs your sex life is normal
Challenge #1: Find out what the heck 'normal' is anyway.

Do you like having covert sex in public, love to play with sex toys or relish in having another couple in the bedroom to help stoke the fires of passion? (You wouldn't be the only one.) Here are 11 signs your sex life is totally normal. And if you don't relate to these, don't despair. This is not an inclusive list. The best way to determining whether or not your sex life is normal is if you both enjoy it and no one is being harmed.

1. You make love infrequently.
People's sex drive and sex needs are different — different libidos. If you make love once a week, once every two weeks or once a month, and you are both happy with this and both enjoy it when you do make love, that's great! No problem!

2. You don't have an orgasm.
Satisfaction means different things to different people. Some are satisfied as long as they have an orgasm. For others, the closeness and connection are far more important than whether or not they climax. For still others, the satisfaction is in the experience, not in the outcome, and they feel satisfied even if they don't have intercourse. It's all good as long as both are happy with it.

3. You watch porn together to get into the mood.
Does watching porn turn you on and add vitality to your sex life? Great! As long as you both enjoy it, it's perfectly normal.

4. You have an open relationship and both like having another person or couple in bed.
Does adding another person or another couple add spice to your sex life? As long as this is acceptable to both of you, go for it! Sometimes, one partner finds it very arousing to watch his/herpartner with someone of the same sex. Men often enjoy watching their partners with other women.

5. You like sharing your sexual experiences from other relationships.
Many people find it hot to imagine their partners with someone else and receive pleasure from sharing this with each other. As long as neither of you feel threatened or jealous, you can both enjoy this.

6. Fantasizing is the only way you can get turned on.
"I only get turned on when I fantasize about someone else or about being at the mercy of someone. Sometimes, I have to fantasize about someone looking at my genitals or about group sex or about being abused in some way. What's wrong with me?" Nothing! Many people fantasize during sex to feel aroused. It doesn't mean you would actually want these things to happen, but if they are arousing, enjoy it. Keep reading ...

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