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How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You? Just Pretend He's A Monkey

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How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You— Just Pretend He Is A Monkey
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It's easy. Treat him like the animal that he is.

Budding relationships are so sweet and can make you wonder how not to lose yourself. One of my readers asked me about this on Facebook. She wants to get even deeper with him. She wants to know how to make a man fall in love with her for the long term.

We all know that when you're falling in love (or lust), you want to spend every breathing second with your sexy beloved. You have to literally tear your lips apart when the two of you have to get ready for work.

The alarm blares its annoying beep, beep, beep as he is ravaging your lips, and you are so in the moment that the alarm that usually drives you crazy just adds to the excitement. Your body is screaming with anticipation of his mouth going everywhere.

The sensation of his hands on your hips, so close yet so far away from where you want them to be, drives you wild.

And then, he follows you around kissing your neck and your back as you dig around in the pile of clothes for your favorite sparkly dangly earrings that (now of course) remind you of him because they were the earrings you were wearing when your eyes gazed across coffee for the first time at the table at Book and Bean.

His eyes follow your every move. He is the lion and you are the gazelle. And he stops himself, watching you, savoring not having you right this second.

Love, sweet love. It will make you feel like a Goddess and can make you lose yourself and feel like a mad woman who can’t get enough sex... What's a girl to do? What makes a man fall in love with you?

Well, there is something that you MUST DO (that I didn't do before I knew any better) that helped to ruin what could have been a more lasting relationship

Your man is not a monkey, but I want you to treat him like one.

Not the monkey who plays tiny cymbals on command in the circus, but when you master the art of this one thing, you will be able to play him like a skilled orchestra musician.

What is this secret?

Let him chase you. It is a gift and it will make him want you more.

So, I’m suggesting you treat him exactly like a monkey. What the heck does this have to do with monkeys? Say what?

Men love to hunt, chance and work to get you, even when they already "have" you. He still wants a challenge. And you want him to get in touch with his primal monkey side.

A team of neuroscientists studied the brains of monkeys in a lab. The monkey's brainwaves were activated when the monkeys saw a tasty treat. It became even more active when the monkey held the grape.

However, when the monkey ate the grape, the activity in the reward center of its brain didn’t increase. It decreased.

The studied monkey's pleasure was at the height of ecstasy when it "got" the yummy snack, not when it ate it.

The theory that came from this study is that there is more pleasure in anticipation than the fulfillment. You can read about one monkey study at Psychology Today.

The same is true for a man to get to chase you. Give him the gift of anticipation. Tease him with flirty text messages. Don’t always give into him. Tease his mind first and then his body.

Make him wait to see you. Keep yourself busy with your hobbies. Don’t stop working out at 5 on weekdays (your norm for 3 years) because he gets off work at 5pm. Keep going to the gym and go shopping with your girlfriends after.

Take time to take care of you, not just him. When you give all of your time ONLY to him it doesn't give him the pleasure of anticipation.

Let him miss you. Let him call you first. Let him text you first. Let him pursue you. Let him feel the full pleasure of waiting in the trenches.

He will thank you for it. Teasing him will keep him on his toes and he will never know what to expect with you. This will make your relationship exciting, fascinating, and will get him in touch with his primal monkey side.

This is what you want. This IS what he wants too. So give it to him, just not all at once.

Connect with Dina Colada and get the Epic Love Mojo Toolkit which includes: an expansive Heart Healing Meditation, her FREE eBook "How To Stop Pushing Men Away — And Get The Love You Want" and the Epic Love & Dating advice Newsletter — all found on her website.

This article was originally published at DinaColada.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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