A big misconception about using the law of attraction to get what you want in your life is that you can use techniques to make a specific person love you and want a relationship with you. I get so many emails and requests for tips on how to make a person love them, be more interested in them or finally commit to them. Sorry, but you can only use your will toward yourself; you cannot manipulate others to love you.
When it comes to dating, you may have had an experience that felt like someone had influenced you to fall for them. Sure, you can succumb to their charms and become powerless to their words but you always have a choice. Even though it doesn’t seem like it, you are always in control of who you choose to love. Attraction usually not a conscious choice, but you can’t allow infatuation to occur without your permission on some level.
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If you do like someone and want them to want you, there are some things you can do that will support your desires. Ultimately, the person has to choose whether they love you back but you can push them away or draw them closer using the power of your mind and personal energy.
I see tips from dating coaches who recommend that you act a certain way to win the heart of a man or woman, but those tactics have very little to do with true love attraction. The best thing you can do to make someone fall in love with you is to love yourself first. I know that sounds cliché but it is SO true. You need to fall in love with all the wonderful things you have to offer a mate or you will never find someone who loves you the way you deserve. No one is going to convince you that you are lovable, you have to convince yourself. Look at everything you do and make sure you are holding yourself up to high standards including what you eat, how you keep your boundaries and with whom you spend your precious time.
In order to improve how you feel about yourself, you need to change your inner dialogue. The most effective method I ever found was using mind repatterning audios that work with your subconscious (the source of all the chattering nonsensical ravings). Daily listening for just fifteen minutes a day can shift the habit of thinking and change the chattering thoughts that constantly flood your mind in as little as thirty days. As you think differently, you will find that the opposite sex is more attracted to you. Your energy will shift and you will have more choices than you need for love.
Lastly, you should only want to be committed to someone who completely loves and adores you. If you feel like you have to manipulate the powers of the universe for someone to see how wonderful you are, then you are aiming for the wrong person. If you fall into that trap, you should take a step back and reassess what you really want and deserve. Why would you want someone who doesn’t want you?
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True love shouldn’t have to be forced. If the person of your desire truly loves you, it won’t require putting their picture on your vision board, seeing them in your visualizations, performing magical incantations or anything else. Your only job is to take care of you and the universe will bring you the mate that matches your level of self-love every single time.
You can’t control external forces; you can only manage your own mind. Thankfully, all things flow from the inside out. One day you just may realize that you had all the love you need within you all along.