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Sex Tips From A Man: 8 Ways To Improve Your Blow Job Skills

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Sex Coach: How To Give A Great Blow Job
Feeling saucy?
The best way to learn how to give a fantastic blow job is to listen to a man.

I've read so many articles online about “how to give an amazing blow job”, and it's always a woman writing it. You know what's ironic about that? No matter how good a woman is at giving a blow job, she's never as good as she thinks she is. Why? Well, so many men don’t get oral sex often enough so when they finally meet a woman who gives them a blow job, they don’t care how she does it. Anything feels good to them. They’re so happy to be getting one, they tell the woman she’s amazing, an absolute professional, sucks like an angel, and didn’t do anything wrong. Humans have a funny trait. When we get something we really want, it’s usually something we don't get very often so we don’t want to rock the boat. We put up with mediocrity because "something is better than nothing." But why shouldn't you be better? 

I’m going to tell you, right from the mouth of a man, exactly how to give the best blow jobs in the world. You'll have your man down on his knees begging for you. Not only that, he'll want to reciprocate and go down on you. He'll want to do everything imaginable to make you feel great. See, I truly believe to receive great sex, you have to learn how to give great sex. And think about it — if you want to learn how to please a man by giving amazing blow jobs, who's the best person to ask how to do it? A man of course!

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I mean, I love going down on women, and I’m really good at it, but I would rather a beautiful woman tell me how to become amazing at it, instead of a man. A woman has a vagina, and knows what feels good. I have a penis, and I know what feels good for a man. With that in mind, let’s get started…

1. You MUST Communicate 
Whenever you’re going down on a man, ask him what feels good. Every man is different, and we all like different things. Ask him, "Am I sucking hard enough? Do you want me to use my hands? Do you like the tip licked?" By asking these questions, you open the lines of communication and a man will relax with you.

You see, when a woman is going down on a man, most the time he’s stuck in his head. He's thinking things like, “Does she like doing this? Does she want to do this? Am I going to be able to cum? Am I relaxed enough?" So by asking questions, you're telling him you're game for giving him a blow job. You enjoy it, and you want to please him in the best way possible. A man won't relax until he knows you WANT to give him a blow job.

2. Don’t Be Afraid To Use Your Hands
Sometimes just licking and sucking a guy isn't enough to make him cum. No matter how far into your mouth you can get a guy’s penis, and no matter how hard you suck him, some men need lots of hand work, too. Why? Because men have been masturbating since the beginning of time. When a man masturbates, he either takes lotion or oil, and strokes his penis as hard and as fast as he can till he climaxes. Now his body is used to cumming that way. He's not used to being sucked. He's not used to being licked. So sometimes, to get a guy to orgasm, you need to give him a combination of hand and mouth. Don't be afraid to alternate between hands and mouth either. Sometimes just put the tip of his penis in your mouth, and stroke the rest of it with your hands. That way you’re stroking and sucking at the same time, and those two sensations together will be enough to drive him crazy!

3. Give His Balls Some Love
Kiss his balls. Lick his balls. And suck his balls, but be VERY gentle. I’ve had a woman take one of my balls into her mouth like it was an everlasting gobstopper, and sucked really hard. It was ultra-painful and I never want to experience it again. So please, gently and carefully is the way to go. Remember, they’re testicles not billiard balls.

4. The Perineum
This is the strip between a man's butt and his balls. It's called the taint, and just like women, men love when this area is stimulated. If you massage it whilst you're sucking him, he’ll go nuts. It's an awesome feeling because it gives him the feeling he’s going to cum even harder.

5. Don’t Forget Foreplay
Yes, men need foreplay too. I’ve dated many women who go from kissing straight down to the penis. It's like they're in a diving contest. They forget men have an entire body, with a chest, arms, legs, and back. They forget to touch anything. It’s like going from JFK to LAX in one hour. Spend time on his body. Tease him. Turn him on first.

6. Alternate
One of my favorite things to do is to alternate between having sex to getting a blow job. It’s the most amazing thing because it gives him both sensations and builds the orgasm a lot more.

7. Please Swallow
We're doing the same for you. It’s fun, and it leads to much bigger orgasms. There's nothing worse for a guy than when a woman is giving him a blow job, he's in total ecstasy, and then she says, "Tell me when you’re going to cum." The guy does as he’s told, and suddenly she swings her head away and leaves him to cum. No matter whether you use your hands to finish him off, it kills the sensation and lessens the orgasm.

8. Beware The Teeth
Yes, men can act like cavemen sometimes, and caveman’s favorite cat to play with was the sabre tooth tiger. But believe me, we don't want you to go all caveman on our penis. The skin down there is sensitive, so you have to learn to cover up your teeth. Almost like an old woman with dentures. Nothing feels worse than when you’re chewing on our penis, and scraping it up and down like a sabre tooth tiger would scratch the walls of a cave.

So there you have it. From my mouth, to yours. How to give an amazing blow job!

What I want you to do now is go and listen to my FREE podcast which explains why you should never trust a man who doesn't want a blow job! You can hear it HERE.

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